we broke up 4 weeks ago ... my ex G/F family loves me the mom, dad, sisters,uncles, aunts, grama, grampa, even her brother is my bestfriend.... and she went back with her ex B/F DAVID and her family hates the guy to death ... her aunts and uncles say '; why did yoU brake up with him hes cuter, better, funnyer, and has the brains then your EX B/F david whos a drop out and a drug delar and the guy treats her like **** ..and her family tells her to brake up with her ex b/f david and to come back with me... and her family always tell her stuf.. to comeback with me... the ex B/F dosent speak a word to her family not even a hi or anything..
i still talk to her brother, aunts, uncles, and her mom and dad everyday or other day.. ..her and her ex boyfriend david have been going out for 2 weeks.... i talk to her once in a while but thats it...today her dad invited me to PIZZA HUT but no her ex boyfriend..
do i give it time???
how can i get her back??
do i invite her to places with her brother???
i love her alot , i want her back.... help plzzzz...
My ex G/F family loves me , she is going out with her ex B/F and her family hates the guy.i want her back!!!?
If you want her back you go get her back!My ex G/F family loves me , she is going out with her ex B/F and her family hates the guy.i want her back!!!?
if he is all thi bad stuff and she stays with him shell just pay the price but you can try to take her out of the black hole.
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How did u broke up,anyway? no point in her family loving u when she doesn't..
Well, when it comes down to it, the family's opinion doesn't mean ****. Sorry, but it's her opinion that matters (obviously). Trying to get to her through her family is probably just going to appear incredibly pathetic %26amp; weaselly to her since it's sort of a form of emotional blackmail.
I think that you should talk to her once more. Tell her how much you care for her, how stable you are, %26amp; that you could do so much more for her than her ex. Whatever you do, don't sling a lot of mud at her boyfriend. All that's going to do is p*ss her off %26amp; cause her to not listen to you. I really get the impression that this is futile since it's been 4 weeks %26amp; she hasn't come back to you or given you anything to show that she still wants to be with you. Like I said, what her family thinks doesn't mean **** since she's going out *AGAIN* with someone that her family hates. Just b/c they like you doesn't mean that she will.
In the end, if she doesn't take you back, you need to just move on. I know it's painful, but you can't force another person's emotions. If she doesn't love you enough, she doesn't love you enough. The more you try to make her love you (by going through her parents, ect), the more you will push her away from you. If she does end up saying no, accept it %26amp; tell her that you will always be a friend to her if she needs one. Don't push yourself on her as a friend, but let her know that you are just a phone call away. Make it her choice to call you, not you calling her.
Also, stop hanging out with the family. That's just drawing your pain out %26amp; to be honest, you are really just using them right now. I'm not saying that you aren't friends, but right now you're using them as a way to try to brainwash your ex girlfriend into going back out with you. They deserve better than that %26amp; so do you.
Some women who think the guy she is going out with is too perfect, tends to be more attracted to the bad boy. It's not logical of course, it's an emotional thing. A gal who I worked with had a relationship with a guy who spent 9 months in jail, he also was a drug dealer, she did drugs also...The guy came to work after he got out of jail, almost every day to see her...She talk to her on the phone and she was almost late for work many times. Finally she just walked out and quit work. Apparently still with the guy, who going to help destroy her future if she doesn't leave him.
I would go after her, I would send flowers, love notes, anything it would take to win her back...If you truly love her and want her back, go for it...Don't let that looser win!
Friday, August 20, 2010
Please advise me something but be kind please?
a confusion occured within my mind
i sat in my bed with confusion in my head
theres no doubt i can't seem to forget.
i don't know if i leave this person i will
be making the wrong desition or the correct,
but i do know that is just my feelings i am trying to protect.
i been hurt so many times i been trying so very hard to do things right
but does it that really matter anymore. i don't know and i grab my pillow so tight
because this had never accourd to me before.
that i didn't know what i wanted
i was never confused about what was that i wanted.
now like everybody else i seem to be confused in this bad situation
i just didn't think it would be with you and in this very occation.
we were two strangers then two friends, became apart then together again.
you called me once my one year and something relationship was done with
and now its you i end up with.....
now your my x only because i couldn't seem to get over my past
but i wasnt really ready and we took this all to fast.
first your stranger than my friend,third a past, next my boyfriend, now my x,
and this is how the story ends.
now we won't be talking to eachother anymore
i just think i should of though about this before.
i shouldn't or ever ever gone out with you
but instead i though it would work out because i usto get along with you.
your are nothing to my satisfaction
nothing much but another distraction
i mistube not only with you now but
with my x boyfriend too because when he finds out it will be braking his heart too.
i know who i love and i know who i care about sorry to say but
its not about being fare about , you are the one i care about.Please advise me something but be kind please?
what do you want advice about?
i sat in my bed with confusion in my head
theres no doubt i can't seem to forget.
i don't know if i leave this person i will
be making the wrong desition or the correct,
but i do know that is just my feelings i am trying to protect.
i been hurt so many times i been trying so very hard to do things right
but does it that really matter anymore. i don't know and i grab my pillow so tight
because this had never accourd to me before.
that i didn't know what i wanted
i was never confused about what was that i wanted.
now like everybody else i seem to be confused in this bad situation
i just didn't think it would be with you and in this very occation.
we were two strangers then two friends, became apart then together again.
you called me once my one year and something relationship was done with
and now its you i end up with.....
now your my x only because i couldn't seem to get over my past
but i wasnt really ready and we took this all to fast.
first your stranger than my friend,third a past, next my boyfriend, now my x,
and this is how the story ends.
now we won't be talking to eachother anymore
i just think i should of though about this before.
i shouldn't or ever ever gone out with you
but instead i though it would work out because i usto get along with you.
your are nothing to my satisfaction
nothing much but another distraction
i mistube not only with you now but
with my x boyfriend too because when he finds out it will be braking his heart too.
i know who i love and i know who i care about sorry to say but
its not about being fare about , you are the one i care about.Please advise me something but be kind please?
what do you want advice about?
My life is a mess what do i do!?
So I started off this year with my usual friends, but lately I don’t know what to do. My friend Becca is a complete and total ***** and she always finds one way or another to be mad at me. And I used to be like her best friend but then when she became best friends again with my friend Renee then she totally dumped me. 2 weeks ago I’m on aim and I ask her if she wants to hang out and she goes “um how about no, peace out” and she hasn’t talked to me since! I don’t know what to do I’m stressing like crazy! I have so far managed to pretend not to care but it’s hard. I finally was starting to have pick up the pieces when today I’m texting my friend Renee and all of a sudden she starts talking like Becca using terms like “fer sure” or “rad” and “yer mom” and she doesn’t talk like that so I’m like why are you acting like a ***** to me? And she goes because I can, and I’m like well I’m going to go bye and she’s whatever bye. Now I’m really confused I wish I could find a crowd that wasn’t the school bitches. I’m trying to get into a different group of friends but its hard I think my problem is I’m more mature then the kids in my grade and it sucks. I’m so lost and confused and I’m not sure of anything anymore, I have like no friends in my school and I so desperately want to switch schools but I can’t because all I have ever known is in this school and I don’t want to give Renee and Becca the satisfaction of seeing me brake down and give up. The only thing I have to look forward to at school is seeing my boyfriend James who always makes me feel happy. He calls my pretty, tells me that he loves talking to me and that I’m special and sometimes he even gets me to believe him. I have one other friend but he goes to another school, He also tells me that I’m pretty. Why can’t people be nice like him and James? I no I’m a good person and I didn’t do anything that gives my friends to treat me this way so why do they do it? I tried talking to my mom but she gives me this dumb mom answer you no the one that goes “because there jealous of you, and your beauty and kindness”. My life is a mess! But I guess you can say I’m your typical teen, you no the kind of teen I’m talking about: doesn’t think she’s pretty [even though I got all these freaking guys saying they love me because of my eyes and other guys saying that I’m so beautiful how could my ex let me go or just random guys I only talk to for a minute messaging me asking if I have a bf give me a break!!] lacks self confidence doesn’t believe in them self hates their job push over hates their body, thinks their fat, yada yada. Can someone please help me and tell me what to do! Oh and I swear I’m not as egotistical full of myself as I sound here!My life is a mess what do i do!?
Hey Anna, I know what you're going through, this has happened to me all my life and I've been constantly trying to find something to hold on to before I have a mental breakdown. (Well, I actually did, many times) I think your mom may be right, I don't know what you look like but is most likely because of jealousy. I feel like me and you are the exact same person because my mom told me that too! Those people were always mean to me and I never knew why because I'm a good person. My mom would tell me, they jealous because you are naturally good person and you're so pretty! I didn't know what to say, but I started to consider that reason because I've always been told I was beautiful. You probably are too, I mean, your boyfriend, mom and friend say it.
These ';friends'; are not your friends because of the way they treat you. Try to find new ones, I know it's hard but you've got to try. Your true friends will come. Even now people still treat me like that, they use me etc and I just forget about them. They have no right to be like that so I would advise you to forget about them too.
Just so you know, I'm a teen too, I used to lack self confidence but you've got to build youself up, girl! Just like I did! I used to think I wasn't pretty but I know I am now because people continually tell me I am! I bet you are too so yea, basically if I were you I would forget about those ';friends'; and start over. You seem to be a beautiful person on the inside %26amp; outside so that's why those girls are mean to you! It's called jealousy and they are the ones that need to get over it. You don't need them.
Make a fresh start, try to find new friends to hang out with and see if they treat you the way YOU SHOULD be treated.
This is actually SO weird, it's like you're living my life, the way it was. Sorry, I'm babbling here. I just hope I helped you in some way. If you need any more help feel free to email me at girl490181@yahoo.com
Good luck. :]
Hey Anna, I know what you're going through, this has happened to me all my life and I've been constantly trying to find something to hold on to before I have a mental breakdown. (Well, I actually did, many times) I think your mom may be right, I don't know what you look like but is most likely because of jealousy. I feel like me and you are the exact same person because my mom told me that too! Those people were always mean to me and I never knew why because I'm a good person. My mom would tell me, they jealous because you are naturally good person and you're so pretty! I didn't know what to say, but I started to consider that reason because I've always been told I was beautiful. You probably are too, I mean, your boyfriend, mom and friend say it.
These ';friends'; are not your friends because of the way they treat you. Try to find new ones, I know it's hard but you've got to try. Your true friends will come. Even now people still treat me like that, they use me etc and I just forget about them. They have no right to be like that so I would advise you to forget about them too.
Just so you know, I'm a teen too, I used to lack self confidence but you've got to build youself up, girl! Just like I did! I used to think I wasn't pretty but I know I am now because people continually tell me I am! I bet you are too so yea, basically if I were you I would forget about those ';friends'; and start over. You seem to be a beautiful person on the inside %26amp; outside so that's why those girls are mean to you! It's called jealousy and they are the ones that need to get over it. You don't need them.
Make a fresh start, try to find new friends to hang out with and see if they treat you the way YOU SHOULD be treated.
This is actually SO weird, it's like you're living my life, the way it was. Sorry, I'm babbling here. I just hope I helped you in some way. If you need any more help feel free to email me at girl490181@yahoo.com
Good luck. :]
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
=) I know you dont know me. but I cant help myself any longer. so here it is..
When I first saw you back in March 2002 in speech class, I was new to the school and something about you that I couldnt explain gave me butterflies all over my stomach.. I remember you saw me staring at you and we locked eyes for a few long seconds. It was then, that I knew that you were special. or atleast I thought you were. I then dropped the class because i was too behind and wasnt going to get the credit either way.
Then the next yr. I had you for P.E. class, I believe it was in 4th period. Around the time when they had just build the new GYM. I remember being all stupid and trying to impress you, while you never noticed..
Then in a party in Las Milpas, I think it was a 15nera in sept. I went up to you, after one of my friends told me to go for it, and face my fears. I was shaking in fear of rejection but still decided to gamble and give it a try, just to be let down. I remember seeing you and thinking to myself (while I tried to make a conversation with you. Which only lasted around 30sec.) ';Men, I really am stinking this'; I felt you were uncomfortable with my presence. and you were waiting for your ride dress in a white shirt.
Then when I asked you for your # (which I shouldve never done, because in my opinion that is a foolish way to go for someone when you dont know them) and you told me you already had a boyfriend.. it didnt brake my heart, because I alreardy knew you were going out with Eddy, But I did feel stupid after it..
so after that I decided, well maybe she just isnt for me.. I gave up my high hopes.. and then later I remember you once telling me (as I was sitting on the floor next to the old gym. inside the doors near where the busses stop) and you telling me '; I saw you at Champs'; I was like WOW. I knew I shouldve started a conversation, but I didnt.
Then one day when I saw you crying outside after school(as my bus was leaving), I felt hurt and wished I could hold you tight and stop your tears.
Now that I think about it, it was funny how i acted those 2 yrs at Valley View. I had no style, starting with my hair, at the time. and my friends werent the best of choices.some of them.. I Understood why, someone as beautiful and nice as you wouldnt pay attention to someone like me.. lol.. oh yeah, I had a crush on you for quite some time, and I believe I still do, because you havent changed a bit.
I just hope, I didnt get you mad about this..Im not asking for anything, I just wanted to let my heart speak, after all thats one of the reasons why I requested you as a friend. Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Aww, I read this and was like wow; your so sweet and if this chick can't realize it..shes not worth your time.
Good Luck,
Megann.
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Sucks for you hahahahahahaha!!!!!
Nice.
Aw! That's really sweet! She should read this you know!
A) Fix up the typos and poor grammar, and that sounds pretty cool. Honest, self reflective and intelligent.
B) ';Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..'; What's a stocker? Do you mean 'stalker', or is it something else? Like a supermarket shelf stocker?
what's ur question???? if u're asking what we thought of this as a letter to ur girl well, u never told us anything abt the girl...but if she's sweet...i think she'll like it, but what if she still has a boyfriend...i'm not sure what to tell u as i'm not sure what u really want...
When I first saw you back in March 2002 in speech class, I was new to the school and something about you that I couldnt explain gave me butterflies all over my stomach.. I remember you saw me staring at you and we locked eyes for a few long seconds. It was then, that I knew that you were special. or atleast I thought you were. I then dropped the class because i was too behind and wasnt going to get the credit either way.
Then the next yr. I had you for P.E. class, I believe it was in 4th period. Around the time when they had just build the new GYM. I remember being all stupid and trying to impress you, while you never noticed..
Then in a party in Las Milpas, I think it was a 15nera in sept. I went up to you, after one of my friends told me to go for it, and face my fears. I was shaking in fear of rejection but still decided to gamble and give it a try, just to be let down. I remember seeing you and thinking to myself (while I tried to make a conversation with you. Which only lasted around 30sec.) ';Men, I really am stinking this'; I felt you were uncomfortable with my presence. and you were waiting for your ride dress in a white shirt.
Then when I asked you for your # (which I shouldve never done, because in my opinion that is a foolish way to go for someone when you dont know them) and you told me you already had a boyfriend.. it didnt brake my heart, because I alreardy knew you were going out with Eddy, But I did feel stupid after it..
so after that I decided, well maybe she just isnt for me.. I gave up my high hopes.. and then later I remember you once telling me (as I was sitting on the floor next to the old gym. inside the doors near where the busses stop) and you telling me '; I saw you at Champs'; I was like WOW. I knew I shouldve started a conversation, but I didnt.
Then one day when I saw you crying outside after school(as my bus was leaving), I felt hurt and wished I could hold you tight and stop your tears.
Now that I think about it, it was funny how i acted those 2 yrs at Valley View. I had no style, starting with my hair, at the time. and my friends werent the best of choices.some of them.. I Understood why, someone as beautiful and nice as you wouldnt pay attention to someone like me.. lol.. oh yeah, I had a crush on you for quite some time, and I believe I still do, because you havent changed a bit.
I just hope, I didnt get you mad about this..Im not asking for anything, I just wanted to let my heart speak, after all thats one of the reasons why I requested you as a friend. Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Aww, I read this and was like wow; your so sweet and if this chick can't realize it..shes not worth your time.
Good Luck,
Megann.
Girls what would you think about this..? ?
Sucks for you hahahahahahaha!!!!!
Nice.
Aw! That's really sweet! She should read this you know!
A) Fix up the typos and poor grammar, and that sounds pretty cool. Honest, self reflective and intelligent.
B) ';Hopefully you dont get mad and hate me.. or even worse think im a stocker, becuase Im not.. I just had a crush on you..and never got over it..'; What's a stocker? Do you mean 'stalker', or is it something else? Like a supermarket shelf stocker?
what's ur question???? if u're asking what we thought of this as a letter to ur girl well, u never told us anything abt the girl...but if she's sweet...i think she'll like it, but what if she still has a boyfriend...i'm not sure what to tell u as i'm not sure what u really want...
What should I do about this situation with my friends?
Ok well.... about 3 days ago I was invited to a pool party with my friends and well I wanted my boyfriend to go and I didnt want to be rude so I asked the guy that invited me (one of my other friends) if it was ok if my boyfriend came with me. And he asked ';is he kool?'; and of course I answered ';yeah he's kool'; so he gave me the OK invite for my boyfriend. So that night I went with my friends to the party but just before my boyfriend was going to meet up with us he asks if ti's kool if his friend comes. Of course I knew his friend already and I didnt think it would be a problem but i asked my friend who invited me if it was still ok. And he said yeah. So both my boyfriend and his friend came. And everything was kool, everyone was having fun.... and yeah there was drinking and then there began to be maybe a lil to much fun. One of the girls that was there started to have a panic attack. At least that what everyone thought. Well She and I were wearing black tank tops and shorts so i guess we dressed similar -__-; but when she was having that panic attack my boyfriend was drukn and instantly got scared and thought it was me. I was actually in the pool when all this was happening. I didnt know that my boyfriend thought it was me, I thought he was trying to save that random stranger. But then his friend and my friend were trying to help the girl and he went balistic and got into a fist fight with his friend and as they faught he was like ';**** OFF MAN THATS MY GIRLFRIEND IM TRYING TO SAVE!'; and my friend shouted back ';YOUR GIRLFRIENDS IN THE ******* POOL!'; as they quit fighting my boyfriend started to cry. I was super embaressed. and when he came to check on me... (he went to me not the girl) he noticed that i was fine. I then told him ';that girl you were trying to save wasnt me.'; He got super pissed cuz no one told him that that person wasnt me, even though my friend practicly announced it. He was so pissed he started yelling at me about how big of an idiot he was and he was ready to get into his car and drive away drunk. I spoke to him in a gentle voice ';baby let me drive you home. Everything will be ok.'; and he snapped even more because i offered to drive him home. One of my guy friends backed me up and wouldnt let me get in the car with him. But eventually I had to drive him home since he was making a big scene. My friends followed us to his house. He was hella mad that they followed us. My best friend came over to my boyfriends truck and told me to get out of the truck cuz she wanted to talk to my boyfriend. So i did and instead of talking they were yealling at eachother and I had heard and saw everything. ';WHY THE HELL ARE YOU BEING THIS WAY??'; she yelled. ';BECAUSE I CAN!'; he snapped ';DONT YOU KNOW YOUR HURTING YOUR GIRLFRIEND?!'; she yelled again ';I DONT GIVE A ****! SHE CAN SUFFER FOR ALL I CARE!'; and after hearing those words from him i felt my whole heart rip into pieces. ';WHAT KIND OF ******* BOYFRIEND ARE YOU?! YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR DRUNK! GET THE HELL INSIDE YOUR HOUSE!'; she shouted ';NO! IM GONNA CALL THE COPS IF YOU DONT GET THE HELL OFF MY PROPERTY!'; he growled. ';**** YOU! IM OUT!'; and that was the end of my friend and boyfriend yelling at eachother. We then drove away. and as we were on our way back to my friends house, my other bestfriend had told us that my boyfriend was looking for me. I was so angry, embaressed and hurt. I called him and he answered telling me he was down the street from my friends house. I told him i was going home and to meet me there. I was ready to break up with him. But he was actually calm this time and tried talking to me but then he broke down completley. So of course I couldnt brake it off with him. It hurt me to know that he was in pain about me. I accepted his apology but I still dont feel at ease. Cuz... a couple of days went by and my 2 best friends dont want to talk to me and on of them took me off her top 8. I had apologized for everything already and thanked them for being there for me and thanked them for trying to keep my boyfriend in line. But non of thats enough. I already know that Im at fault only because i invited my boyfriend even if i did ask if he could come. But I dont know what else I can do. I feel like it may be over between my 2 bestfriends. I know what they also want from me. I know they want me to break up with my boyfriend. But dont I have the right to make my own decision if I want to? I dont want to not be friends with my 2 bestfriends anymore. So what should I do?What should I do about this situation with my friends?
That was really long :P But I see your problem, and I would be completely devastated! So, I'm going to lay this out, so that I can actually help :P
1) Your friends are mad at you because they were trying to stick up for you and then you just forgave your boyfriend. So they felt like they just wasted talking to him for you.
2) They are also mad because you were the one who invited him.
3) Your boyfriend has anger issues but really doesn't want to leave you because he really does love you.
So basically, the fight isn't about you. It's about your boyfriend and your bffs. And how they have tension between them.
You can try this:
1) If you have already talked to your bffs about it, they should be understanding your problem. Tell them that your boyfriend was crying over the phone because he wanted you so much and he knew that he had made a mistake.
2) Tell your friends that the only reason he was spazzing and going insane was because he was drunk.
People do a lot of things when they're drunk. They say things they don't mean. Overall, your boyfriend did have good intentions. He did, try to save that girl because he thought it was you. If he told your friend that he wanted you to suffer, it was only because he was crazy drunk and it was a spur in the moment and he wasn't thinking straight. It was probably all in a blur. So you can't think that he doesn't care about you because he wouldn't have tried to save that girl and he wouldn't have cried over you.
Try to say that to your friends.
You can't think that this is your fault. It isn't. If your friend had said no to inviting your boyfriend, then things would've been different...
So really, it's your friend's fault.
At parties, people always bring other people with them. They aren't their responsiblity. Just know that it isn't your fault. Don't worry about it.
Your only problem now, is that your bffs are mad at you.
We're only human. They will in time, forget it and won't hold it against you. Escpecially if you guys were really close. They will realise what they're missing. Try and explain this to your friends. Over e-mail if you have too. But try to talk to them in person first, so that you get first hand :)
I really hope everything works out well. And works out for the better!
Good Luck and I hope I helped :)What should I do about this situation with my friends?
UH MAYBE THATS WHY YOU SHOULDNT GET RANDOMLY DRUNK bad stuff always happens
anyway thx for the two points
I think you need to stop asking questions. Forever.
Hellz no im not reading that
WOOT! 2pts!
thats too long hun
WOOT 2pts
you know wat girly..text me.. send me your email.. ill give you my number.. i can talk to you there.. this is something... i have to help you out with.. and i mean really talk.. so just be ready for wat i have to say.. K? =] ive been thru this already..
boyfriend is wrong.
he shouldnt have gotten smashed at someone elses party that he wasnt even invited too first of all.
second of all he treated you like **** and your friends are lookin out for you he also cried like a baby.
ixnay.
dang, well it just sounds like people drank to much and over reacted, your best friends might not like him but theree your friends, tell therm he means alot to you but you still want them to eb there for you, also has your boyfriend done stuff like this before,
id have your bf say sorry to them ansd that he was really drunk
I think that you need to start using paragraphs,your b/f needs to stop drinking and your friends need to stop over reacting over nothing. Hope that helped.
I read all of that.. so do me a favor and answer mine..
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NOW AS FOR YOUR SITUATION!
1) If they are ';your'; best friends, TALK to them, and tell them you realize your boyfriend was acting like a tard, just ask them to forgive you, and just to either let them cool it off. Or tell them you really care about him, and if they cared about you, they'd stick it through and through with you.
2) Tell your boyfriend that you're upset, and you're on the verge of breaking up with him on the account of him being such a tard. Then tell him he has two options, he can either apologize to your best friends, ask for forgivness or its over.
In this situation you like both, but you can't have both unless compromises occur... Sure he was wasted, but its a pool parrty...
long story.... ur frends will always be there dont let a guy mess that up unfortunatlly as you can see that when ur boyfrend gets drunk he seems that he gets mentaly abussive (yelling at u). take my advice and make up with u frends theres other fish in the sea.
That was really long :P But I see your problem, and I would be completely devastated! So, I'm going to lay this out, so that I can actually help :P
1) Your friends are mad at you because they were trying to stick up for you and then you just forgave your boyfriend. So they felt like they just wasted talking to him for you.
2) They are also mad because you were the one who invited him.
3) Your boyfriend has anger issues but really doesn't want to leave you because he really does love you.
So basically, the fight isn't about you. It's about your boyfriend and your bffs. And how they have tension between them.
You can try this:
1) If you have already talked to your bffs about it, they should be understanding your problem. Tell them that your boyfriend was crying over the phone because he wanted you so much and he knew that he had made a mistake.
2) Tell your friends that the only reason he was spazzing and going insane was because he was drunk.
People do a lot of things when they're drunk. They say things they don't mean. Overall, your boyfriend did have good intentions. He did, try to save that girl because he thought it was you. If he told your friend that he wanted you to suffer, it was only because he was crazy drunk and it was a spur in the moment and he wasn't thinking straight. It was probably all in a blur. So you can't think that he doesn't care about you because he wouldn't have tried to save that girl and he wouldn't have cried over you.
Try to say that to your friends.
You can't think that this is your fault. It isn't. If your friend had said no to inviting your boyfriend, then things would've been different...
So really, it's your friend's fault.
At parties, people always bring other people with them. They aren't their responsiblity. Just know that it isn't your fault. Don't worry about it.
Your only problem now, is that your bffs are mad at you.
We're only human. They will in time, forget it and won't hold it against you. Escpecially if you guys were really close. They will realise what they're missing. Try and explain this to your friends. Over e-mail if you have too. But try to talk to them in person first, so that you get first hand :)
I really hope everything works out well. And works out for the better!
Good Luck and I hope I helped :)What should I do about this situation with my friends?
UH MAYBE THATS WHY YOU SHOULDNT GET RANDOMLY DRUNK bad stuff always happens
anyway thx for the two points
I think you need to stop asking questions. Forever.
Hellz no im not reading that
WOOT! 2pts!
thats too long hun
WOOT 2pts
you know wat girly..text me.. send me your email.. ill give you my number.. i can talk to you there.. this is something... i have to help you out with.. and i mean really talk.. so just be ready for wat i have to say.. K? =] ive been thru this already..
boyfriend is wrong.
he shouldnt have gotten smashed at someone elses party that he wasnt even invited too first of all.
second of all he treated you like **** and your friends are lookin out for you he also cried like a baby.
ixnay.
dang, well it just sounds like people drank to much and over reacted, your best friends might not like him but theree your friends, tell therm he means alot to you but you still want them to eb there for you, also has your boyfriend done stuff like this before,
id have your bf say sorry to them ansd that he was really drunk
I think that you need to start using paragraphs,your b/f needs to stop drinking and your friends need to stop over reacting over nothing. Hope that helped.
I read all of that.. so do me a favor and answer mine..
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NOW AS FOR YOUR SITUATION!
1) If they are ';your'; best friends, TALK to them, and tell them you realize your boyfriend was acting like a tard, just ask them to forgive you, and just to either let them cool it off. Or tell them you really care about him, and if they cared about you, they'd stick it through and through with you.
2) Tell your boyfriend that you're upset, and you're on the verge of breaking up with him on the account of him being such a tard. Then tell him he has two options, he can either apologize to your best friends, ask for forgivness or its over.
In this situation you like both, but you can't have both unless compromises occur... Sure he was wasted, but its a pool parrty...
long story.... ur frends will always be there dont let a guy mess that up unfortunatlly as you can see that when ur boyfrend gets drunk he seems that he gets mentaly abussive (yelling at u). take my advice and make up with u frends theres other fish in the sea.
This isn't a question just an oppertunity to vent. WARNING: THIS IS LONG!?
I don't really need opinions on this, I just needed a place to vent. Feel free to vent your emotions too in the answers.
I just feel completely heart broken, but I am kind of happy everything is going to go back to normal again and I'm going back to where I started and where I felt secure. I got myself in this stupid situation where I was completely in love with my boyfriend, no question about it, but I started to get scared because it was looking more and more likely that I was going to be with that person for the rest of my life. I thought that I didn't have a problem about committing to one person but I obviously did. I started to fall for someone else as well. I know I'm going to get plagued by comments saying that I can't have loved my boyfriend because you can't fall in love with two people, but how do you know that unless you have been there? I have proved that to myself that you can and it hurts.
I kissed the other guy a few times and he said he really wanted to be with me. Its so annoying because this other guy was perfect for me from what I could see, he was kind, lovable, good looking and intelligent. This went on for a couple of weeks until we started to really care for each other and develop real feelings for each other. I hated that when we went out we couldn't hold hands, couldn't kiss and it hurt us both. Tonight we were chatting and he said that he can't keep killing himself skulling around and hiding everything because it hurts. It hurt me to, knowing that I was betraying one person who really didn't deserve it and hurting another person by leaving them hanging. So tonight he gave me a choice that I had to make because he couldn't keep holding on to something that is so uncertain, I could either be with him or stay with my boyfriend. I was thinking I could either stay with someone I'm secure with and am certain that I love or try someone new and take my life in a new direction. Change is one of the scariest things in the world but its also one of the best opertunities you will get in your life. Change evolves your life. I feel like in a way I would have liked to have gone with it and seen what my life would turn into, but on the other hand I was safe where I originally was and where I was, was a good place to be. I was happy and looking forward to a future that was roughly planned out, with someone I trust, who is good to me and I know they aren't just going to walk out the next day and leave me.
It really was a decision that was hard to make, do I stick to what I know is safe or do I go with change and let grow into something that is either going to end up in heart brake or be the best decision I ever made?
In the end I chose to stay where I was in my current relationship. I have put too much of my heart and soul into my relationship for 3 years to just throw it away for something I can't be sure will work. I am happy with where I am so why destroy that? I love my boyfriend and I know for certain that he loves me. I know he can give me a good life, and I know he will make me happy. There is absolutely no reason why I would leave him, he doesn't deserve to be pushed aside just because I can't figure out where I want to be. I told the other guy that he should probably find someone else who could give him their full love who isn't in a stupid situation where she will have to hide away and hurt him, he鈥檚 a good man and he deserves better than what I could give him in my situation. Even if I did leave my boyfriend, I couldn't give him everything because my heart would still belong with my boyfriend. I just hope he鈥檚 not to shattered about all this, I have let him down the best way I could, I shouldn鈥檛 have let him in the first place but as I did there is no point in regretting it now. The damage is done now, and I will just grow from my selfish mistakes and let it make me a better person.
Now I have vented how I feel, its your turn. If you have something on your mind just let it out here. It doesn't matter where you go with it, just talk away.This isn't a question just an oppertunity to vent. WARNING: THIS IS LONG!?
I met a guy and did everything I knew to do. Talked, refrained from physical contact, got to know each other. Yet, we still didn't know each other. So many issues arose and so much anger and confusion built between us. 2 and a half years later, I'm as confused as I was back then, yet now I'm madly in love and hopelessly devoted..not to him but to US - that's how bad it's gotten. Bittersweet.myspace icons real world myspace
I just feel completely heart broken, but I am kind of happy everything is going to go back to normal again and I'm going back to where I started and where I felt secure. I got myself in this stupid situation where I was completely in love with my boyfriend, no question about it, but I started to get scared because it was looking more and more likely that I was going to be with that person for the rest of my life. I thought that I didn't have a problem about committing to one person but I obviously did. I started to fall for someone else as well. I know I'm going to get plagued by comments saying that I can't have loved my boyfriend because you can't fall in love with two people, but how do you know that unless you have been there? I have proved that to myself that you can and it hurts.
I kissed the other guy a few times and he said he really wanted to be with me. Its so annoying because this other guy was perfect for me from what I could see, he was kind, lovable, good looking and intelligent. This went on for a couple of weeks until we started to really care for each other and develop real feelings for each other. I hated that when we went out we couldn't hold hands, couldn't kiss and it hurt us both. Tonight we were chatting and he said that he can't keep killing himself skulling around and hiding everything because it hurts. It hurt me to, knowing that I was betraying one person who really didn't deserve it and hurting another person by leaving them hanging. So tonight he gave me a choice that I had to make because he couldn't keep holding on to something that is so uncertain, I could either be with him or stay with my boyfriend. I was thinking I could either stay with someone I'm secure with and am certain that I love or try someone new and take my life in a new direction. Change is one of the scariest things in the world but its also one of the best opertunities you will get in your life. Change evolves your life. I feel like in a way I would have liked to have gone with it and seen what my life would turn into, but on the other hand I was safe where I originally was and where I was, was a good place to be. I was happy and looking forward to a future that was roughly planned out, with someone I trust, who is good to me and I know they aren't just going to walk out the next day and leave me.
It really was a decision that was hard to make, do I stick to what I know is safe or do I go with change and let grow into something that is either going to end up in heart brake or be the best decision I ever made?
In the end I chose to stay where I was in my current relationship. I have put too much of my heart and soul into my relationship for 3 years to just throw it away for something I can't be sure will work. I am happy with where I am so why destroy that? I love my boyfriend and I know for certain that he loves me. I know he can give me a good life, and I know he will make me happy. There is absolutely no reason why I would leave him, he doesn't deserve to be pushed aside just because I can't figure out where I want to be. I told the other guy that he should probably find someone else who could give him their full love who isn't in a stupid situation where she will have to hide away and hurt him, he鈥檚 a good man and he deserves better than what I could give him in my situation. Even if I did leave my boyfriend, I couldn't give him everything because my heart would still belong with my boyfriend. I just hope he鈥檚 not to shattered about all this, I have let him down the best way I could, I shouldn鈥檛 have let him in the first place but as I did there is no point in regretting it now. The damage is done now, and I will just grow from my selfish mistakes and let it make me a better person.
Now I have vented how I feel, its your turn. If you have something on your mind just let it out here. It doesn't matter where you go with it, just talk away.This isn't a question just an oppertunity to vent. WARNING: THIS IS LONG!?
I met a guy and did everything I knew to do. Talked, refrained from physical contact, got to know each other. Yet, we still didn't know each other. So many issues arose and so much anger and confusion built between us. 2 and a half years later, I'm as confused as I was back then, yet now I'm madly in love and hopelessly devoted..not to him but to US - that's how bad it's gotten. Bittersweet.
Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
Please Only Guy's Answer?
You guys have a mind of your own that we girls don't understand.
My boyfriend and I have been going off and on for the past few years and each time he brakes my heart over and over again. I got back with him again. He told me that he loves me and does not want anyone else and that he was sorry for all the times he hurt me, He also tells all of his friends about how much he loves me and feels bad for everything he has done. My boyfriend is also giving up the most important thing for me ';WEED';.Since we got back together he has lost his virginity to me and always tells me how pretty I am. He plans are future together in a cute way too.. Do you think he truly wants me this time and that everything he is telling me is true or is he playing me and going to brake my heart again?
( and also he gives up his very best friend for me and puts me first this time)Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
If he was willing to give up all that just for you then he may be worth it.
But ultimately you have to ask yourself that question. Does he really seem sincere this time around?
You're the one who hangs out with him. Not us here. So it's only right to assume that you are the one who's going to notice if he really means it.
Him giving up weed, losing his virginity to you, and putting you before his best friend... those are huge things. I'm even surprised he plans your future together. It's usually the guys who are hesitant to form commitments. I'm saying these are huge pluses on his side.
Then again, if he used to break your heart before over and over again, what's different now that would make him change? Is there anything significantly different that happened that made him decide to be with you forever? Because this may also be circumstantial. It may all be just because of something or someone. And what if that something disappears? Will he grow tired and break your heart again? You need to try and see why he changed.
In the end, you have to evaluate whatever you two have.
Maybe he doesn't really mean it and you're like a person he like to have around to make him happy once in a while.
Maybe he loves you enough to be with you, but not enough to not hurt you.
Maybe he woke up one day and found that he really does love you. But how long will this epiphany last?
And there's also the maybe where he really does love you now and you're just scared that he will go hurt you again. It's okay to be scared. You have every reason to be. You can't blame yourself if you are. He gave you reason to be hesitant and I think he has to earn your complete trust back.
My final advice to you is this:
If I were you, I'd go with him w/ some circumstances. First, he has to know that you are a little hesitant to be together (and explain why). This way he knows and has to fully realize that he has to change completely for the good of both of you. Like I said, he's doing well there so far. Second, you have to tell him (and you have to promise yourself this) that IF he ever hurts you again, it's over for good. No more getting back together, no more second chances, because this just means he never meant any of this. Why should it be any different if he promises to change next time if he didn't now? Believe me, it's for the best. It's for you as well... You can't keep putting yourself in a volatile relationship. It's masochistic even. But then, after all this, the choice really is up to you. If you still love him that much, then I can't stop you from going back.
I just do hope whatever you choose, you're happy.Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
I dont know him so i cant exactly judge, but if he sounds as sincere as ur saying it, i think hes a good pick for u... U just gotta make sure he doesnt hurt u again and if u really matter to him, u tell him that hes hurting u and he'll stop... otherwise, hes gone for good
You guys have a mind of your own that we girls don't understand.
My boyfriend and I have been going off and on for the past few years and each time he brakes my heart over and over again. I got back with him again. He told me that he loves me and does not want anyone else and that he was sorry for all the times he hurt me, He also tells all of his friends about how much he loves me and feels bad for everything he has done. My boyfriend is also giving up the most important thing for me ';WEED';.Since we got back together he has lost his virginity to me and always tells me how pretty I am. He plans are future together in a cute way too.. Do you think he truly wants me this time and that everything he is telling me is true or is he playing me and going to brake my heart again?
( and also he gives up his very best friend for me and puts me first this time)Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
If he was willing to give up all that just for you then he may be worth it.
But ultimately you have to ask yourself that question. Does he really seem sincere this time around?
You're the one who hangs out with him. Not us here. So it's only right to assume that you are the one who's going to notice if he really means it.
Him giving up weed, losing his virginity to you, and putting you before his best friend... those are huge things. I'm even surprised he plans your future together. It's usually the guys who are hesitant to form commitments. I'm saying these are huge pluses on his side.
Then again, if he used to break your heart before over and over again, what's different now that would make him change? Is there anything significantly different that happened that made him decide to be with you forever? Because this may also be circumstantial. It may all be just because of something or someone. And what if that something disappears? Will he grow tired and break your heart again? You need to try and see why he changed.
In the end, you have to evaluate whatever you two have.
Maybe he doesn't really mean it and you're like a person he like to have around to make him happy once in a while.
Maybe he loves you enough to be with you, but not enough to not hurt you.
Maybe he woke up one day and found that he really does love you. But how long will this epiphany last?
And there's also the maybe where he really does love you now and you're just scared that he will go hurt you again. It's okay to be scared. You have every reason to be. You can't blame yourself if you are. He gave you reason to be hesitant and I think he has to earn your complete trust back.
My final advice to you is this:
If I were you, I'd go with him w/ some circumstances. First, he has to know that you are a little hesitant to be together (and explain why). This way he knows and has to fully realize that he has to change completely for the good of both of you. Like I said, he's doing well there so far. Second, you have to tell him (and you have to promise yourself this) that IF he ever hurts you again, it's over for good. No more getting back together, no more second chances, because this just means he never meant any of this. Why should it be any different if he promises to change next time if he didn't now? Believe me, it's for the best. It's for you as well... You can't keep putting yourself in a volatile relationship. It's masochistic even. But then, after all this, the choice really is up to you. If you still love him that much, then I can't stop you from going back.
I just do hope whatever you choose, you're happy.Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
I dont know him so i cant exactly judge, but if he sounds as sincere as ur saying it, i think hes a good pick for u... U just gotta make sure he doesnt hurt u again and if u really matter to him, u tell him that hes hurting u and he'll stop... otherwise, hes gone for good
Please Only Guy's Answer?
You guys have a mind of your own that we girls don't understand.
My boyfriend and I have been going off and on for the past few years and each time he brakes my heart over and over again. I got back with him again. He told me that he loves me and does not want anyone else and that he was sorry for all the times he hurt me, He also tells all of his friends about how much he loves me and feels bad for everything he has done. My boyfriend is also giving up the most important thing for me ';WEED';.Since we got back together he has lost his virginity to me and always tells me how pretty I am. He plans are future together in a cute way too.. Do you think he truly wants me this time and that everything he is telling me is true or is he playing me and going to brake my heart again?
( and also he gives up his very best friend for me and puts me first this time)Please Only Guy's Answer?
you should give him a chance but be cautious. let him know you are willing to leave him for good if it happens again.Please Only Guy's Answer?
as history shows, he has broke ur heart over and over again..so i dont think it will last this time around..if it didnt work out the first time or second time, or third time, why will the fourth time be any different? he said sorry before but makes the same mistakes again...how many times are u going to forgive him
Everyone should have a mind of their own. That is how minds work, is it not? If he is giving up his very best friend, then something is wrong; it will not work.
Depends. He could just want sex. He could really love you.
My boyfriend and I have been going off and on for the past few years and each time he brakes my heart over and over again. I got back with him again. He told me that he loves me and does not want anyone else and that he was sorry for all the times he hurt me, He also tells all of his friends about how much he loves me and feels bad for everything he has done. My boyfriend is also giving up the most important thing for me ';WEED';.Since we got back together he has lost his virginity to me and always tells me how pretty I am. He plans are future together in a cute way too.. Do you think he truly wants me this time and that everything he is telling me is true or is he playing me and going to brake my heart again?
( and also he gives up his very best friend for me and puts me first this time)Please Only Guy's Answer?
you should give him a chance but be cautious. let him know you are willing to leave him for good if it happens again.Please Only Guy's Answer?
as history shows, he has broke ur heart over and over again..so i dont think it will last this time around..if it didnt work out the first time or second time, or third time, why will the fourth time be any different? he said sorry before but makes the same mistakes again...how many times are u going to forgive him
Everyone should have a mind of their own. That is how minds work, is it not? If he is giving up his very best friend, then something is wrong; it will not work.
Depends. He could just want sex. He could really love you.
Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
Please Only Guy's Answer?
You guys have a mind of your own that we girls don't understand.
My boyfriend and I have been going off and on for the past few years and each time he brakes my heart over and over again. I got back with him again. He told me that he loves me and does not want anyone else and that he was sorry for all the times he hurt me, He also tells all of his friends about how much he loves me and feels bad for everything he has done. My boyfriend is also giving up the most important thing for me ';WEED';.Since we got back together he has lost his virginity to me and always tells me how pretty I am. He plans are future together in a cute way too.. Do you think he truly wants me this time and that everything he is telling me is true or is he playing me and going to brake my heart again?
( and also he gives up his very best friend for me and puts me first this time)Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
We don't know the whole story, but it really seems like he likes you. You say you go off and on again a lot. Maybe you and he can come up with a solution for that? It sounds like it's done when one of you gets upset. You could try an agreement that if you're ever upset at the other person and want to end the relationship, that you both give it a week, a day, whatever. And you both just think about all the time you spent together and how much you enjoy being with each other.
Try and put the event that started the argument in perspective. Is it really worth ending the relationship over? Or was it just something that someone should apologize for and you both kiss and make up?
You guys have a mind of your own that we girls don't understand.
My boyfriend and I have been going off and on for the past few years and each time he brakes my heart over and over again. I got back with him again. He told me that he loves me and does not want anyone else and that he was sorry for all the times he hurt me, He also tells all of his friends about how much he loves me and feels bad for everything he has done. My boyfriend is also giving up the most important thing for me ';WEED';.Since we got back together he has lost his virginity to me and always tells me how pretty I am. He plans are future together in a cute way too.. Do you think he truly wants me this time and that everything he is telling me is true or is he playing me and going to brake my heart again?
( and also he gives up his very best friend for me and puts me first this time)Please Answer This, ANYONE!!?
We don't know the whole story, but it really seems like he likes you. You say you go off and on again a lot. Maybe you and he can come up with a solution for that? It sounds like it's done when one of you gets upset. You could try an agreement that if you're ever upset at the other person and want to end the relationship, that you both give it a week, a day, whatever. And you both just think about all the time you spent together and how much you enjoy being with each other.
Try and put the event that started the argument in perspective. Is it really worth ending the relationship over? Or was it just something that someone should apologize for and you both kiss and make up?
Are my poems any good...?
Have you ever wanted to bring a gun to your head
Have blood gushing out all over your bed.
Have you ever just wanted to take too many pills
Just enough so you know it kills
Have you wanted to walk in to burning fire
Watch the flames destroy all your attire
Have you ever wished to hang yourself on a tree
So dieing could really be a guarantee
Have you wanted your brakes to stall
So your car would go crashing into a wall.
Have you ever really wanted to cut your veins
So there was so much blood it stains.
What many don鈥檛 see is there is some in pain
People take it like it鈥檚 a game
But no one knows how they really feel
They talk about it, like it鈥檚 no big deal
There鈥檚 people out there wanting just this
Because there mom died, or got denied there first kiss
People out there really want to die
But why does no one ever care why
Cant you see your best friend might really be sad
Having a much worst life then you ever had
Don鈥檛 deny what you know is true
Or you could end up being a victim of suicide too
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Why do we sleep during the night
The darkness is blinding, putting children in fright
Why do only some die before there time
In fires, earthquakes, and that one fatal crime
Why do we torture the weak, but praise the strong
When they are the ones causing what鈥檚 wrong.
Why do we look at the bad but never the good
Being nice to that girl like no one would.
Why do we use violence to solve all are mistakes
With guns, knives, and bones to break.
Why do we care for those who could care less
When they are the ones tearing up success
Why do we risk all we have worked for
To be richer then ever before
Why, do we always say goodbye
To the ones that never can give a reply
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A solider is fatally shot the ground
A cry of hurt is his very last sound
His dad kicked him as hard as he could
He wanted his family to work like it should
A little girl is pushed off her very first bike
Her knee breaking with one simple strike
A man his deliberately punched in the jaw
His best friends face was the last he saw
A simple middle school fight lead to her death
Her boyfriend was fault of her very last breath
He just wanted his little angel to stop crying
He didn鈥檛 know shaking her lead to her dieing
She hit him for being the cause of the lies
Ignoring the bleeding, bruises, and cries
He shot the gun without thinking ahead
Knowing he鈥檚 the reason his brothers dead
Violence just leads to more hurt and pain
It鈥檚 like a cycle but there鈥檚 nothing to gain
But revenge doesn鈥檛 solve one little thing
Sooner or later you will feel the sting
Why don鈥檛 we all just live in peace
Causing all the guns and knives to decrease
And cant you all see your in danger to
Violence is finally here, and we all know its true
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Dear god can you hear are cries from below
Don鈥檛 you see this is not all for show
People are dieing from lack of food
Begging for something to eat from the crude
Dear god cant you hear are prayers up there
All this pain and suffering is surely not fair
Are closet friends are dieing from one disease
Cure them now I beg of you, please
Dear god cant you see all the people in fear
Yelling at the sky hoping you will hear
All they want is someone to love
Raising there voices to the sky above
Dear god wont you listen to are pleas
All we want is for the pain to seize
People dieing from being in the wrong places
Hoping you will see the pain in there faces
God all we want is for you to see
That you can make this go away, you鈥檙e the key
And god were hoping you can hear are prayers
Hoping you鈥檙e the one that truly cares
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Hello I am Danielle
I am only fourteen and have been writing for awhile
My poems are in order from oldest to most recent
And they generally talk about whats going on in the world
Tell what you think. Please and thank you.Are my poems any good...?
i think that your a very good writer. i like how you were able to say what you wanted without poetic peer. your poems are a bit dark but it is true that the world is not filled with flowers and rainbows. you should try to every now and then write a poem thats a little brighter though. just for a change. i realy think your a great writer you should submitt your pomes to family advocacy or a suicide prevention group or somthin. i think they would enjoy reading your poems. =)
im 14 too btw lolAre my poems any good...?
You could probably snip a bit here and there. I think the way it is written the violence is a bit too in the face to be poetic. I think it could be slightly toned down and it wouldnt hurt the poem. They have promise, just need some work. Two of the poems seem to be about the same thing and ran into each other
your poems are good but not great not for the fact they are dark but great poetry has a symbolic feel and flow to it.yes i understand it is modern style but the use of imagery and symbolism is also key to make a great poem. i do how ever love the messages behind them the message is what makes it good but every poem has ttwo thing that are need and you have one out of the two but still good messages
Your poems are way too dark for me. It's sad only painful events move you to write these fine poems. Your work exemplifies your feelings well and shows great creativity. If you ever cheer up and see life in a happier light, I would definitely like to read those results.
Have blood gushing out all over your bed.
Have you ever just wanted to take too many pills
Just enough so you know it kills
Have you wanted to walk in to burning fire
Watch the flames destroy all your attire
Have you ever wished to hang yourself on a tree
So dieing could really be a guarantee
Have you wanted your brakes to stall
So your car would go crashing into a wall.
Have you ever really wanted to cut your veins
So there was so much blood it stains.
What many don鈥檛 see is there is some in pain
People take it like it鈥檚 a game
But no one knows how they really feel
They talk about it, like it鈥檚 no big deal
There鈥檚 people out there wanting just this
Because there mom died, or got denied there first kiss
People out there really want to die
But why does no one ever care why
Cant you see your best friend might really be sad
Having a much worst life then you ever had
Don鈥檛 deny what you know is true
Or you could end up being a victim of suicide too
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Why do we sleep during the night
The darkness is blinding, putting children in fright
Why do only some die before there time
In fires, earthquakes, and that one fatal crime
Why do we torture the weak, but praise the strong
When they are the ones causing what鈥檚 wrong.
Why do we look at the bad but never the good
Being nice to that girl like no one would.
Why do we use violence to solve all are mistakes
With guns, knives, and bones to break.
Why do we care for those who could care less
When they are the ones tearing up success
Why do we risk all we have worked for
To be richer then ever before
Why, do we always say goodbye
To the ones that never can give a reply
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A solider is fatally shot the ground
A cry of hurt is his very last sound
His dad kicked him as hard as he could
He wanted his family to work like it should
A little girl is pushed off her very first bike
Her knee breaking with one simple strike
A man his deliberately punched in the jaw
His best friends face was the last he saw
A simple middle school fight lead to her death
Her boyfriend was fault of her very last breath
He just wanted his little angel to stop crying
He didn鈥檛 know shaking her lead to her dieing
She hit him for being the cause of the lies
Ignoring the bleeding, bruises, and cries
He shot the gun without thinking ahead
Knowing he鈥檚 the reason his brothers dead
Violence just leads to more hurt and pain
It鈥檚 like a cycle but there鈥檚 nothing to gain
But revenge doesn鈥檛 solve one little thing
Sooner or later you will feel the sting
Why don鈥檛 we all just live in peace
Causing all the guns and knives to decrease
And cant you all see your in danger to
Violence is finally here, and we all know its true
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Dear god can you hear are cries from below
Don鈥檛 you see this is not all for show
People are dieing from lack of food
Begging for something to eat from the crude
Dear god cant you hear are prayers up there
All this pain and suffering is surely not fair
Are closet friends are dieing from one disease
Cure them now I beg of you, please
Dear god cant you see all the people in fear
Yelling at the sky hoping you will hear
All they want is someone to love
Raising there voices to the sky above
Dear god wont you listen to are pleas
All we want is for the pain to seize
People dieing from being in the wrong places
Hoping you will see the pain in there faces
God all we want is for you to see
That you can make this go away, you鈥檙e the key
And god were hoping you can hear are prayers
Hoping you鈥檙e the one that truly cares
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Hello I am Danielle
I am only fourteen and have been writing for awhile
My poems are in order from oldest to most recent
And they generally talk about whats going on in the world
Tell what you think. Please and thank you.Are my poems any good...?
i think that your a very good writer. i like how you were able to say what you wanted without poetic peer. your poems are a bit dark but it is true that the world is not filled with flowers and rainbows. you should try to every now and then write a poem thats a little brighter though. just for a change. i realy think your a great writer you should submitt your pomes to family advocacy or a suicide prevention group or somthin. i think they would enjoy reading your poems. =)
im 14 too btw lolAre my poems any good...?
You could probably snip a bit here and there. I think the way it is written the violence is a bit too in the face to be poetic. I think it could be slightly toned down and it wouldnt hurt the poem. They have promise, just need some work. Two of the poems seem to be about the same thing and ran into each other
your poems are good but not great not for the fact they are dark but great poetry has a symbolic feel and flow to it.yes i understand it is modern style but the use of imagery and symbolism is also key to make a great poem. i do how ever love the messages behind them the message is what makes it good but every poem has ttwo thing that are need and you have one out of the two but still good messages
Your poems are way too dark for me. It's sad only painful events move you to write these fine poems. Your work exemplifies your feelings well and shows great creativity. If you ever cheer up and see life in a happier light, I would definitely like to read those results.
*~What is it most likely to be ~*?
if someone puts up a date on myspace, does it mean that he's going out with someone?...like for example 07-07-08?
cuz my boyfriend and i just brake on august 02 and today he puts up a new date 08- 05-08? like how can someone go out with someone so fast??...i would check it but his profile is set to private. i mean it has no initalis written like a girls name and his name nothing just a date. or maybe it's an important event??
what is it most likey to be??
i want your opinion*~What is it most likely to be ~*?
Probley just a important date or someting dw about it :)*~What is it most likely to be ~*?
Could be that he just put up a date it doesn't have to mean that he is dating someone.
cuz my boyfriend and i just brake on august 02 and today he puts up a new date 08- 05-08? like how can someone go out with someone so fast??...i would check it but his profile is set to private. i mean it has no initalis written like a girls name and his name nothing just a date. or maybe it's an important event??
what is it most likey to be??
i want your opinion*~What is it most likely to be ~*?
Probley just a important date or someting dw about it :)*~What is it most likely to be ~*?
Could be that he just put up a date it doesn't have to mean that he is dating someone.
Is my Boyfriend useing me? or what do you think here?
Well thought I would ask so here I go.
Meet him in a club, we dances etc, got his number and called him 2 days after, we went out again and again to when he was moving into a house I asked if he wanted to stay w/me he ended up at my highrise! he had a car as well as me always (we where insepratable 100%), and he ended up going to jail for a secret he was hiding from me at the beginning so 7months he is in jail I waited and worked (Im a dancer) I really was faithful as I gave soo much for food etc for him in jail (on his books) seen him every week (on 2 ocassions had to rent a vehicle) and ran up so much prepaid for him to call me, he wrote me so many letters almost everyday and drew pictures with such love in it with wedding VOWS! and that he will change and he loved me at first sight........yea hiding out at first sight???
right before he went to jail we moved into a house together which we are stilll at and I can't say anything without him yellling at me, he starts like ';your driving to slow';.......what? and he starts yelling how dumb and idiot I am then latter (hours pass he apologizes) I accepted the fact he lied at first but now it's out of control, he lies all the time, and say's it's because of me, Now I'm selfish and a B****, I'm told often as I pay everything, bills, rent, food, gas name it I pay it! He's living for freeeeeeee... He has a good amount of money from a lawsuite coming and says after he gets it he will see how HE will pay for everything?? (or in my words ';leave';?? Didn't mind my work one lick for long time and now, Hates my work, but then likes me for it?? (hugh?) it's ok one day then next it's not? throws a huge temper if he don't get his way, I need this, I need that, and if I don't I'm selfish and a B**** he makes me look like the bad person and I just put my head down when he yells for no reason, I do Love him and have feelings for him, but he is not or near as charming as when we meet, I dislocated me knee snowboarding and call him he laughed at me, said I'm stupid and he's on another slope then hung up! while I'm being taken to the clinic he shows up acted somewhat nice we ledft got into car and I'm yelled at every name in the book! I'm in pain in a knee brace and he slams on the brakes over and over I'm crying then in the middle of no-where he slams hard and stops the car and tells me to drive! I was so nervious I just hopped over and drove as he continued to yell at me for ruining his trip cause I'm a B****, I again always just put my head down and say nothing, He wanted to marry me while he was in jail he said to help him and ow how much he really loves me, now home nothing, I ask, I had to ask yea, he say's yes right away let's marry now, then his best friend say's they talked about that and he has no real intentions, he just admited that and said it's because of me, I'm selfish, I set up (NICE) dinner dates, tried being romantic (candles with pettles etc etc) He don't care! (horseback riding, resorts, boat cruise, shows, etc etc and I always pay (which is ovious and people see it and tell me it's embarressing) he say's he feels bad cause he can't pay for anything right now, but I believe this is a suck up line here, for he never ever has, after we finally.........got home from me dislocating my knee I realized someone robbed my place, He took off in the morning on a grayhound bus saying he had work for me needed the money (yet funny he is the only person who went and had the key coppied) and since this all happened he said needed to go so after 2weeks of me wobbling alone just to about everywhere for the knee brace and my foot was swolen 2-3x bigger then my other, which made healing way harder cause I had to walk for I was alone, He not long ago took off with my car (I had a rent-a-car) and he was gone for 2 days out partying I went at 6AM! To help him as he texted he was staying at a friends (about 10 that night) which is usual he's there, but was not this time, I called/texted/waited, 2nights-2 1 1/2 days he comes in and say's I love you, and tries to kiss me???? wtf? His friend tells me use common sense, but he's a liar also so I can't believe him also (this one) He likes to flirt and mingle with other lady's and say's he don't care what I do, I mean he actually leaves me.... then says he was watching me from a distance?? I broke it off and told him he needed to leave, he demands at least 90days?? then smooched me back in hopes of a bright future again so I say ok whattever, I'm at the end of my ropes here, and he wants us to see a counsler, I'm not sure I believe that at all, maybe another smooch to make me happy and say what will make me smile so he is in the good'?? He from what I know has no history of abuse, but when another arguement came up when I was driving (he lost his car and has not had one since jail (4months) so he uses mine and I feel taken prizioner in my car, I can't listen to this, I can't drive like that, I can hardley tolerate um anymore, but he sIs my Boyfriend useing me? or what do you think here?
To be honest here,I didn't read all of your question.Because it was just saying how mentally abusive he is,and he IS using you.I can't believe you don't see it,he is verbally and emotionally abusing you and soon he will be physically abusing you as well.You need to DUMP this piece of SH** ASAP!! I just can't believe that you don't see it!!! You are making excuses for him also...you say ';I love him but';......He demands 90 days to move out?OMG!!! I can't for the life of me understand why,how this piece of sh** is still with you,why have you not kicked his a** out!!!!!!!!! Yeah, 90 days...Yeah!!! He is a LOSER!!!!! I hope you have enough self-esteem left to put his a** out!!! Good luck,he will beat you!!! Trust me,he is already abusing you in all the other ways,soon enough he will start hitting,punching,smacking you around.Then he will say ';I'm so so sorry it will never never happen again';....But you do whatever you wish....again I wish you good luck!!!Is my Boyfriend useing me? or what do you think here?
hes an as*hole...theres other guys out there dump him
He's a womanizer womanizer womanizer oh oh....no I'm sorry I shouldnt have joked he's abusive....borderline physically (slamming on the brakes ect) and defiantely physically. he tries to make you feel bad because then he thinks by lowering your self esteem you wont think you are worthy to leave and deserve better. You have to leave.
Yes he is using you and he has no sense of what a real relationship looks like or feels like. You can do way better, however, staying with a low life jail bird is what he is convincing you deserve. Get rid of the loser before he ruins you for life. That is not love you are describing. He definitely does not love you from what you described.
Meet him in a club, we dances etc, got his number and called him 2 days after, we went out again and again to when he was moving into a house I asked if he wanted to stay w/me he ended up at my highrise! he had a car as well as me always (we where insepratable 100%), and he ended up going to jail for a secret he was hiding from me at the beginning so 7months he is in jail I waited and worked (Im a dancer) I really was faithful as I gave soo much for food etc for him in jail (on his books) seen him every week (on 2 ocassions had to rent a vehicle) and ran up so much prepaid for him to call me, he wrote me so many letters almost everyday and drew pictures with such love in it with wedding VOWS! and that he will change and he loved me at first sight........yea hiding out at first sight???
right before he went to jail we moved into a house together which we are stilll at and I can't say anything without him yellling at me, he starts like ';your driving to slow';.......what? and he starts yelling how dumb and idiot I am then latter (hours pass he apologizes) I accepted the fact he lied at first but now it's out of control, he lies all the time, and say's it's because of me, Now I'm selfish and a B****, I'm told often as I pay everything, bills, rent, food, gas name it I pay it! He's living for freeeeeeee... He has a good amount of money from a lawsuite coming and says after he gets it he will see how HE will pay for everything?? (or in my words ';leave';?? Didn't mind my work one lick for long time and now, Hates my work, but then likes me for it?? (hugh?) it's ok one day then next it's not? throws a huge temper if he don't get his way, I need this, I need that, and if I don't I'm selfish and a B**** he makes me look like the bad person and I just put my head down when he yells for no reason, I do Love him and have feelings for him, but he is not or near as charming as when we meet, I dislocated me knee snowboarding and call him he laughed at me, said I'm stupid and he's on another slope then hung up! while I'm being taken to the clinic he shows up acted somewhat nice we ledft got into car and I'm yelled at every name in the book! I'm in pain in a knee brace and he slams on the brakes over and over I'm crying then in the middle of no-where he slams hard and stops the car and tells me to drive! I was so nervious I just hopped over and drove as he continued to yell at me for ruining his trip cause I'm a B****, I again always just put my head down and say nothing, He wanted to marry me while he was in jail he said to help him and ow how much he really loves me, now home nothing, I ask, I had to ask yea, he say's yes right away let's marry now, then his best friend say's they talked about that and he has no real intentions, he just admited that and said it's because of me, I'm selfish, I set up (NICE) dinner dates, tried being romantic (candles with pettles etc etc) He don't care! (horseback riding, resorts, boat cruise, shows, etc etc and I always pay (which is ovious and people see it and tell me it's embarressing) he say's he feels bad cause he can't pay for anything right now, but I believe this is a suck up line here, for he never ever has, after we finally.........got home from me dislocating my knee I realized someone robbed my place, He took off in the morning on a grayhound bus saying he had work for me needed the money (yet funny he is the only person who went and had the key coppied) and since this all happened he said needed to go so after 2weeks of me wobbling alone just to about everywhere for the knee brace and my foot was swolen 2-3x bigger then my other, which made healing way harder cause I had to walk for I was alone, He not long ago took off with my car (I had a rent-a-car) and he was gone for 2 days out partying I went at 6AM! To help him as he texted he was staying at a friends (about 10 that night) which is usual he's there, but was not this time, I called/texted/waited, 2nights-2 1 1/2 days he comes in and say's I love you, and tries to kiss me???? wtf? His friend tells me use common sense, but he's a liar also so I can't believe him also (this one) He likes to flirt and mingle with other lady's and say's he don't care what I do, I mean he actually leaves me.... then says he was watching me from a distance?? I broke it off and told him he needed to leave, he demands at least 90days?? then smooched me back in hopes of a bright future again so I say ok whattever, I'm at the end of my ropes here, and he wants us to see a counsler, I'm not sure I believe that at all, maybe another smooch to make me happy and say what will make me smile so he is in the good'?? He from what I know has no history of abuse, but when another arguement came up when I was driving (he lost his car and has not had one since jail (4months) so he uses mine and I feel taken prizioner in my car, I can't listen to this, I can't drive like that, I can hardley tolerate um anymore, but he sIs my Boyfriend useing me? or what do you think here?
To be honest here,I didn't read all of your question.Because it was just saying how mentally abusive he is,and he IS using you.I can't believe you don't see it,he is verbally and emotionally abusing you and soon he will be physically abusing you as well.You need to DUMP this piece of SH** ASAP!! I just can't believe that you don't see it!!! You are making excuses for him also...you say ';I love him but';......He demands 90 days to move out?OMG!!! I can't for the life of me understand why,how this piece of sh** is still with you,why have you not kicked his a** out!!!!!!!!! Yeah, 90 days...Yeah!!! He is a LOSER!!!!! I hope you have enough self-esteem left to put his a** out!!! Good luck,he will beat you!!! Trust me,he is already abusing you in all the other ways,soon enough he will start hitting,punching,smacking you around.Then he will say ';I'm so so sorry it will never never happen again';....But you do whatever you wish....again I wish you good luck!!!Is my Boyfriend useing me? or what do you think here?
hes an as*hole...theres other guys out there dump him
He's a womanizer womanizer womanizer oh oh....no I'm sorry I shouldnt have joked he's abusive....borderline physically (slamming on the brakes ect) and defiantely physically. he tries to make you feel bad because then he thinks by lowering your self esteem you wont think you are worthy to leave and deserve better. You have to leave.
Yes he is using you and he has no sense of what a real relationship looks like or feels like. You can do way better, however, staying with a low life jail bird is what he is convincing you deserve. Get rid of the loser before he ruins you for life. That is not love you are describing. He definitely does not love you from what you described.
My Boyfriends Mum Is Becoming Obsessive What Can I Do?
my bfs mum is becoming obsessive with my little girl and i don't know what to do.
here's the story - when i found out i was pregnant first told my bf n my mum and they was over the moon i told my bfs mum shes started saying why don't u get an abortion your not old enough for a child then after i told her no it came to when i was about 25 weeks pregnant we was round her house and she starts going on about how shes going to buy a cot for her house and she can have my little girl every weekend (which i dint like ) she also went on about taking my little girl on holiday without me or the father being with her and before we get the change to take her ( which i also dint like ) i went in to premature labour at 34 weeks due to stress because it was all getting to me there was so much she kept saying that was stressing me out after giving birth my child was in special care for 19 days and only parents of the baby were allowed to visit due to so many other babies being in there she through a fuss at us because she couldn't see her when she wanted to we also started talking about christening her she turned around n sed why don't u have my 2 daughter's as god parents which i thought was unfair as i have 2 sisters as well her daughters are 9 and 11 my sisters are 12 and 15 so my sisters are older as well because we said no cos it isn't fair she dint talk to us for a week now my daughter is out of hospital she throws fusses when she cant see her or we dont come round on her demand i cant drive nor can my bf but she can yet expects us to get hour n hlf bus journey to her house and when she comes round my house she goes on about hows shes going to take her on holiday still without us and because of christmas she asked what my mums buyin my daughter for christmas so i told her and she threw fuss cos she thinks my mum is trying to take all the good stuff she also just comes into my house and when my daughter is asleep she wakes her up and starts sayin ohh im going to take you home with me n wont bring u back n my daughter is getting clingy cos shes teething shes 3 month old and crys when someone she dont recognise picks her up and so she crys when my bfs mum picks her up yet wont give her to me just lets her cry which i hate seeing my daughter cry when i can settle her if she just gave her me back and when it comes supermarket aswell she is also obsessive she doesnt ever let me push my own daughter around the shops she has to or else she threatens us sayin she wont buy us owt again or lend us owt if we need it unless we let her then when someone startes at my daughter in her buggie she stands there talking to the people like shes her daughter and it really hurts me that i never get to push my own daughter in my eyes she is just being so obsessive and i dont know how to tell her because she will just turn around and say something really nasty to me she told my bf that she dont care if we brake up aslong as she still gets to see my daughter please someone help what can i do ?My Boyfriends Mum Is Becoming Obsessive What Can I Do?
Your question is really hard to understand due to grammar issues. All you have to do is say back off.My Boyfriends Mum Is Becoming Obsessive What Can I Do?
Ok I couldnt read the whole thing due to lack of punctuation and spelling (and it just rambles on). You just need to stand up for yourself and tell her to back off. If you let her keep it up it will never stop and you will be miserable. You might hurt her feelings at first and she will probably be mad at you, but she will get over it if she truly loves her grandbaby.
You need to stand up for yourself right now. She is being very controlling and obsessive. You and your bf need to sit down and talk to her, before things get out of control.
You are her mother, of course you want to push her pram when you are out because I'm sure you are so proud to be her mummy.
Be firm but polite, lay down some ground rules...
For example...
Tell her she can come visit the baby in your home but that she needs to arrange this in advance and to respect you as her mother (you and your bf are the only people who have any rights to your baby). Explain to her that your daughter needs her sleep and that she should not wake her from naps. If she mentions the holiday thing again, just laugh loudly and say 'you will take your holidays with mummy and daddy, not granny, isnt that right baba?'
If you choose to go to the shops with her again, (although I wouldnt) and she starts taking over and pushing the pram, calmly and firmly take the handles of the buggy and say 'excuse me' and you could say to your baby, 'you like mummy to push you dont you?'
Dont let her have the baby without you there until these issues are resolved. Anything you are not happy with, just tell her. If she takes a strop and threatens to not buy things for your daughter, she obviously doesnt love her that much.
If she kicks up a fuss when you start putting her in her place just tell her that you want her to play an active role in her grandaughters life but that she is making it difficult for you to allow that.
When my baby was 3months old I wanted my space so me, my bf and baby could get used to being a family, now shes older I am grateful her grandparents want a part in her life and that they babysit, spoilt her etc.
Your babys grannys time will come, but she needs to adjust to role of granny... She isnt the mum! Good luck. Enjoy your LO, they grow up too fast!x
Talk to your boyfriend and see if he agrees, then have him tell her to back off. I wouldn't care if she was threatening not to buy you stuff, if she really loves your daughter she will anyway. You need to push back and tell her, don't handle my baby when she's sleeping. Who cares if she throws a fuss.myspace icons real world myspace
here's the story - when i found out i was pregnant first told my bf n my mum and they was over the moon i told my bfs mum shes started saying why don't u get an abortion your not old enough for a child then after i told her no it came to when i was about 25 weeks pregnant we was round her house and she starts going on about how shes going to buy a cot for her house and she can have my little girl every weekend (which i dint like ) she also went on about taking my little girl on holiday without me or the father being with her and before we get the change to take her ( which i also dint like ) i went in to premature labour at 34 weeks due to stress because it was all getting to me there was so much she kept saying that was stressing me out after giving birth my child was in special care for 19 days and only parents of the baby were allowed to visit due to so many other babies being in there she through a fuss at us because she couldn't see her when she wanted to we also started talking about christening her she turned around n sed why don't u have my 2 daughter's as god parents which i thought was unfair as i have 2 sisters as well her daughters are 9 and 11 my sisters are 12 and 15 so my sisters are older as well because we said no cos it isn't fair she dint talk to us for a week now my daughter is out of hospital she throws fusses when she cant see her or we dont come round on her demand i cant drive nor can my bf but she can yet expects us to get hour n hlf bus journey to her house and when she comes round my house she goes on about hows shes going to take her on holiday still without us and because of christmas she asked what my mums buyin my daughter for christmas so i told her and she threw fuss cos she thinks my mum is trying to take all the good stuff she also just comes into my house and when my daughter is asleep she wakes her up and starts sayin ohh im going to take you home with me n wont bring u back n my daughter is getting clingy cos shes teething shes 3 month old and crys when someone she dont recognise picks her up and so she crys when my bfs mum picks her up yet wont give her to me just lets her cry which i hate seeing my daughter cry when i can settle her if she just gave her me back and when it comes supermarket aswell she is also obsessive she doesnt ever let me push my own daughter around the shops she has to or else she threatens us sayin she wont buy us owt again or lend us owt if we need it unless we let her then when someone startes at my daughter in her buggie she stands there talking to the people like shes her daughter and it really hurts me that i never get to push my own daughter in my eyes she is just being so obsessive and i dont know how to tell her because she will just turn around and say something really nasty to me she told my bf that she dont care if we brake up aslong as she still gets to see my daughter please someone help what can i do ?My Boyfriends Mum Is Becoming Obsessive What Can I Do?
Your question is really hard to understand due to grammar issues. All you have to do is say back off.My Boyfriends Mum Is Becoming Obsessive What Can I Do?
Ok I couldnt read the whole thing due to lack of punctuation and spelling (and it just rambles on). You just need to stand up for yourself and tell her to back off. If you let her keep it up it will never stop and you will be miserable. You might hurt her feelings at first and she will probably be mad at you, but she will get over it if she truly loves her grandbaby.
You need to stand up for yourself right now. She is being very controlling and obsessive. You and your bf need to sit down and talk to her, before things get out of control.
You are her mother, of course you want to push her pram when you are out because I'm sure you are so proud to be her mummy.
Be firm but polite, lay down some ground rules...
For example...
Tell her she can come visit the baby in your home but that she needs to arrange this in advance and to respect you as her mother (you and your bf are the only people who have any rights to your baby). Explain to her that your daughter needs her sleep and that she should not wake her from naps. If she mentions the holiday thing again, just laugh loudly and say 'you will take your holidays with mummy and daddy, not granny, isnt that right baba?'
If you choose to go to the shops with her again, (although I wouldnt) and she starts taking over and pushing the pram, calmly and firmly take the handles of the buggy and say 'excuse me' and you could say to your baby, 'you like mummy to push you dont you?'
Dont let her have the baby without you there until these issues are resolved. Anything you are not happy with, just tell her. If she takes a strop and threatens to not buy things for your daughter, she obviously doesnt love her that much.
If she kicks up a fuss when you start putting her in her place just tell her that you want her to play an active role in her grandaughters life but that she is making it difficult for you to allow that.
When my baby was 3months old I wanted my space so me, my bf and baby could get used to being a family, now shes older I am grateful her grandparents want a part in her life and that they babysit, spoilt her etc.
Your babys grannys time will come, but she needs to adjust to role of granny... She isnt the mum! Good luck. Enjoy your LO, they grow up too fast!x
Talk to your boyfriend and see if he agrees, then have him tell her to back off. I wouldn't care if she was threatening not to buy you stuff, if she really loves your daughter she will anyway. You need to push back and tell her, don't handle my baby when she's sleeping. Who cares if she throws a fuss.
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i am thirteen but i do have plenty of curse words so... yeah. leave comments..
its called Decisions to Make
have you ever had a family that didnt want you? well right now my dad could care less if i lived today or died. my mom was too scared of my dad -on steroids and who knows how many other drugs- to do sh*t. you only want to go to schoolbecause you get away from your family. but then you realise people are starting rumors about you. Then waht you thought was a peaceful getawat only turns into a bigger hell than at home.Then someone you REALLY like asked you out. ofcorse you say yes then three weeks later he brakes up with you, and school only becomes a bigger pain in the ***.who am i? my names elizabeth walker. my friends just call me liz or lizzy.i am 21 years old.My mother died when i was 14. She drowned in a river near my grandma rozas gouse. after that i lived in foster homes because when we called the cops they examined my father and found serious drugs in his system such as cocaine weed and many other drugs then they took him to jail. so yeah i was living with fat families thin families big families small families sane families and crazy families. so my dating life was a living hell and my sex life didnt exist. even though my mom died i kept my promise';you can either stay a virgin until your married or moved out';she once said. ';pinky swear mommy';i said, then we went to bed. that was my first talk about sex and i was only nine. But oh well. it made me smarter. She once told me that a guy would say anything to get you in bed. So when a guy told me he loved me i told him i wasnt sleeping with him. they`d try the next day i said no and they dumped me. on my 18th birthdaymy gramdma bought me a house in paris, close to hers. i got a boyfriend and an extremely handsome one at that. he was 17 and in colleage which was weird at the time but i overlooked it. one day we were talking ';liz, we need somewhere else to live. maybe somewhere closer to school?'; Justin said
and thats all i got so far. not really but im getting tired so thats where im stopping. lol sorry.Would you read my book??
A book has to have a begging middle and an end.Would you read my book??
well, why don't you being with correct punctuation and grammar. Also, it's all over the place, randomly detailed and not organized well. Sorry, but no I would not read your book
Lets just say, writing is not your talent. The way you describe things is a little odd. No one would ever talk that way in real life.
No. Too many grammar and spelling errors.
Um. Let's just say that it definitely shows that you're only 13.
It's not bad. You've got a lot of good ideas, but you need to polish it more--this is more like an outline than an actual story.
If I were you, I would open with an actual scene. Remember the old creative writing saying: ';Show, don't tell.'; Instead of having your main character telling us this, have her telling Justin about all this. Or better yet, open with the scene where she's in the same room with her dad and he treats her terribly or just ignores her or whatever. Have another scene where she's talking to her foster family. Have another scene where she seems extremely depressed for some reason, and only her very best friend knows why--it's the anniversary of the day her mother died. Then have another scene where she's talking to her friends and they tell her about the rumors being spread about her, and so on.
Another suggestion. If you're only thirteen... write about being a thirteen year old. Write about your own experiences. It'll come off more interesting and realistic. I find it really interesting, what it's like to be thirteen... and I'll never really know, because it was so long ago for me. If you've tried drugs, write about that. If you've suffered through losing a loved one, write about that... but if you haven't, try to avoid it, because it'll come off phony. For me, it would be impossible to write about being related to a coke addict, because I can hardly imagine what it's like. There are so many aspects I could never know about it, and it would show through in my writing.
Also, you want to stay consistent. I'm assuming you're talking about her maternal grandmother? If her grandmother's so rich, why was she living in foster homes? Why was it that her daughter, (who must be somewhat upper class) was hanging out with some sleazy guy who does steroids in the first place? And why does she buy her a house in Paris, the arguably the most expensive city in the world, when she already has a house there? Couldn't they live together? It comes off quite unrealistic, and I don't like to judge, but I'm guessing you've never been to Paris.
However, I'll venture to guess that your parents are divorced? If they are, may I suggest you focus on a plot that's more focused on that? And it sounds like someone you know has dealt with drugs. Write about them. Write about the world from your point of view. You can change it up--change the plot, change the names, change the personalities... but write about what you know about. That's your greatest asset. Draw from the things you know about, and go from there. That's what makes good writing.
So to answer your question:
Would I read a book about drugs and sex when it's written by someone who doesn't really know much about either of the two? No. Sorry.
But alternatively: Would I read a book about a thirteen year old girl trying to deal with problems and hardships the writer knows everything about, and I know nothing about? Hell yes. Your life is different from mine. Your hardships are unique--things that I couldn't imagine, things I would find interesting. *That's* something I would read about.
Also... don't listen to those bastards who tell you that you can't write. But if I may suggest, before you post any of your work online, you'll want to make sure you capitalize and use proper punctuation. Plus, don't forget to spell/grammar check. Personally, I don't mind mistakes, but real critics and publishers will ignore you right off the bat for something like that.
One more thing. As long as you like writing and as long as your heart's in it, keep doing it. Write as much as you can, and you'll just automatically get better from experience. You may not publish your first book, but never stop trying--never stop writing, if it's what you love.
I hope this helps. Sorry if this is a little more advice than you bargained for, haha.
That's awful.
It's a mess - grammatically, structurally. There are random details thrown in here and there. It's not at all well written. It doesn't even try to stay remotely on topic.
Epic writing fail, I'm sorry to say.
I think you have lots of good ideas and concepts, but I think you are too young to portray what you are trying to portray. Writing about a 21 year old just isn't very practical when your only 13, you don't have the life experiences of a 21 year old, and developmentally, your at a different level of mental cognition, maturity, etc.
Also, structurally and grammatically you have problems. Again, being 13, you don't have the schooling yet that teaches you all the correct grammar and whatnots.
I admire your ambition though. Don't listen to people who tell you you have no talent or to stop writing. Keep writing! Like everything else, practice is the key.
Best of luck!
its called Decisions to Make
have you ever had a family that didnt want you? well right now my dad could care less if i lived today or died. my mom was too scared of my dad -on steroids and who knows how many other drugs- to do sh*t. you only want to go to schoolbecause you get away from your family. but then you realise people are starting rumors about you. Then waht you thought was a peaceful getawat only turns into a bigger hell than at home.Then someone you REALLY like asked you out. ofcorse you say yes then three weeks later he brakes up with you, and school only becomes a bigger pain in the ***.who am i? my names elizabeth walker. my friends just call me liz or lizzy.i am 21 years old.My mother died when i was 14. She drowned in a river near my grandma rozas gouse. after that i lived in foster homes because when we called the cops they examined my father and found serious drugs in his system such as cocaine weed and many other drugs then they took him to jail. so yeah i was living with fat families thin families big families small families sane families and crazy families. so my dating life was a living hell and my sex life didnt exist. even though my mom died i kept my promise';you can either stay a virgin until your married or moved out';she once said. ';pinky swear mommy';i said, then we went to bed. that was my first talk about sex and i was only nine. But oh well. it made me smarter. She once told me that a guy would say anything to get you in bed. So when a guy told me he loved me i told him i wasnt sleeping with him. they`d try the next day i said no and they dumped me. on my 18th birthdaymy gramdma bought me a house in paris, close to hers. i got a boyfriend and an extremely handsome one at that. he was 17 and in colleage which was weird at the time but i overlooked it. one day we were talking ';liz, we need somewhere else to live. maybe somewhere closer to school?'; Justin said
and thats all i got so far. not really but im getting tired so thats where im stopping. lol sorry.Would you read my book??
A book has to have a begging middle and an end.Would you read my book??
well, why don't you being with correct punctuation and grammar. Also, it's all over the place, randomly detailed and not organized well. Sorry, but no I would not read your book
Lets just say, writing is not your talent. The way you describe things is a little odd. No one would ever talk that way in real life.
No. Too many grammar and spelling errors.
Um. Let's just say that it definitely shows that you're only 13.
It's not bad. You've got a lot of good ideas, but you need to polish it more--this is more like an outline than an actual story.
If I were you, I would open with an actual scene. Remember the old creative writing saying: ';Show, don't tell.'; Instead of having your main character telling us this, have her telling Justin about all this. Or better yet, open with the scene where she's in the same room with her dad and he treats her terribly or just ignores her or whatever. Have another scene where she's talking to her foster family. Have another scene where she seems extremely depressed for some reason, and only her very best friend knows why--it's the anniversary of the day her mother died. Then have another scene where she's talking to her friends and they tell her about the rumors being spread about her, and so on.
Another suggestion. If you're only thirteen... write about being a thirteen year old. Write about your own experiences. It'll come off more interesting and realistic. I find it really interesting, what it's like to be thirteen... and I'll never really know, because it was so long ago for me. If you've tried drugs, write about that. If you've suffered through losing a loved one, write about that... but if you haven't, try to avoid it, because it'll come off phony. For me, it would be impossible to write about being related to a coke addict, because I can hardly imagine what it's like. There are so many aspects I could never know about it, and it would show through in my writing.
Also, you want to stay consistent. I'm assuming you're talking about her maternal grandmother? If her grandmother's so rich, why was she living in foster homes? Why was it that her daughter, (who must be somewhat upper class) was hanging out with some sleazy guy who does steroids in the first place? And why does she buy her a house in Paris, the arguably the most expensive city in the world, when she already has a house there? Couldn't they live together? It comes off quite unrealistic, and I don't like to judge, but I'm guessing you've never been to Paris.
However, I'll venture to guess that your parents are divorced? If they are, may I suggest you focus on a plot that's more focused on that? And it sounds like someone you know has dealt with drugs. Write about them. Write about the world from your point of view. You can change it up--change the plot, change the names, change the personalities... but write about what you know about. That's your greatest asset. Draw from the things you know about, and go from there. That's what makes good writing.
So to answer your question:
Would I read a book about drugs and sex when it's written by someone who doesn't really know much about either of the two? No. Sorry.
But alternatively: Would I read a book about a thirteen year old girl trying to deal with problems and hardships the writer knows everything about, and I know nothing about? Hell yes. Your life is different from mine. Your hardships are unique--things that I couldn't imagine, things I would find interesting. *That's* something I would read about.
Also... don't listen to those bastards who tell you that you can't write. But if I may suggest, before you post any of your work online, you'll want to make sure you capitalize and use proper punctuation. Plus, don't forget to spell/grammar check. Personally, I don't mind mistakes, but real critics and publishers will ignore you right off the bat for something like that.
One more thing. As long as you like writing and as long as your heart's in it, keep doing it. Write as much as you can, and you'll just automatically get better from experience. You may not publish your first book, but never stop trying--never stop writing, if it's what you love.
I hope this helps. Sorry if this is a little more advice than you bargained for, haha.
That's awful.
It's a mess - grammatically, structurally. There are random details thrown in here and there. It's not at all well written. It doesn't even try to stay remotely on topic.
Epic writing fail, I'm sorry to say.
I think you have lots of good ideas and concepts, but I think you are too young to portray what you are trying to portray. Writing about a 21 year old just isn't very practical when your only 13, you don't have the life experiences of a 21 year old, and developmentally, your at a different level of mental cognition, maturity, etc.
Also, structurally and grammatically you have problems. Again, being 13, you don't have the schooling yet that teaches you all the correct grammar and whatnots.
I admire your ambition though. Don't listen to people who tell you you have no talent or to stop writing. Keep writing! Like everything else, practice is the key.
Best of luck!
Can I limit how often my baby's dad sees our kid?
I don't want any mean comments so can you please keep it nice if your going to answer?
I'm 16 years old and two months ago I had my first child with my ex boyfriend. He visits every weekend and occasionally during the week. For about a month after our daughter was born he was dating this one chick who wouldn't let him see her and who coincidentally ruined mine and his relationship. I have never liked her, and he ended up braking up with her so he could visit me and the baby. He has talked many times about having a relationship with me again which is why he has visited more. Because he wants to be close to me and our baby because he thinks that it will give her the best life possible.
But now his ex girlfriend is back in the picture. (they aren't dating but from what i hear from his mom is that they spend almost every day together) She wakes him up in the morning for school and they hang out almost every day after school as well. He says they are just friends and since they aren't having sex that I shouldn't be pissed.
But my question is, can I limit how often he gets to see our baby because I don't think its fair that he goes off and does whatever he wants knowing it upsets me but he still thinks he can come around and see our baby whenever and act like everything is fine between us?
Is it right of me to say that as long as he is still involved with her that when he comes to see his daughter that it will only be at certain times?Can I limit how often my baby's dad sees our kid?
OK.. I have a lot to say about this situation. Some you may like and some you may not but my intentions is only to give you the BEST advice I can.
Number one I want you inform you, I dont know where you live, BUT in the state of OHIO the child is born into the custody of the mother if the child wasnt a result of a marriage. AKA If you didnt marry him, YOU HAVE ALL RIGHTS. - Check into this in your state but I know for a fact this is how it is here.
Number two, I know its hardd being in your shoes. I had my son when I was 16 and his daddy cheated on me with anything that had a hole really. But I ALWAYS KEPT THIS IN MIND, ';He sucks as a spouse but is a damn good dad.'; But he wasnt at first. He was more worried about getting the next whore in line. So .. how did I teach him to grow up? Well number one, I left him. I allowed an open relationship with my son however also told him set times so it wouldnt inconvenience my life as well. I allowed every other weekend over night visits (which he never did willingly until my son was almost 2 - but the option was there). I never said no (unless I was busy) about visiting randomly but I told him until he could prove he was willing to be a father, dont bother. He was in and out and only there when it was convenient for him at first, WHICH IS NOT FAIR. So thats how I handled it.
Now I understand your concerns. BUT make sure you make choices for the right reasons. If he is in and out of the kids life when its convenient for HIM and isnt there regularly (every other weekend or when ever you guys have scheduled) then its ok to be stern. Dont let him walk all over you, but keep in mind.. that is your childs father and no matter how he irritates you, your baby needs to see her dad. Make a schedule with him letting him know these are set times, if you dont show an effort to be in her life, then we will wait until you are grown enough to handle being a father. Its also not fair your daughter has a daddy in her life one day and then out for a month, its confusing and wrong. But if he is making an effort, work with him.
I wouldnt suggest getting back with him because personally that feeling he has left you with will always be there. But work with him on being a dad. Guys are sometimes pretty slow with becoming an adult even when they made adult decisions.
Another word of advice, NEVER talk bad about him in front of your daughter. NO MATTER HOW BAD he hurts you. Let HER make her own decision. I find it very important that I never did this and my son was able to love his dad for being a dad and not for sucking at being there for me. My son loves his daddy, and while one day he will find out (i assume) how his father did treat me, he will understand that it was an adult situation and never played a part in how much his dad loves him. (THis is just a personal choice on how I handled it and an offer of advice for a similar situation)
Last .. I wanted to let you know.. the road was bumpy, long, and hard. But here I am today almost 23 and with an almost 6yr old son and his dad and I are NOT together and never would be but his dad is very much in his life. As a matter of a fact I am very good friends with his fiance. He grew up and took responsibility on his own, with a lil shove from me ;) I never discuss the bad parts in front of my son and I take pride in that, and I think his dad respects it too and I got a sincere appology from his dad a couple years back for all the BS he put me through.
I know another woman being there is difficult. AT ANY AGE its difficult, but you can manage. Just keep your head up. I let his fiance know from the start this is MY Kid. Dont lay a hand (punnish) my son, dont down my name in front of him, and dont dare have him call u mom and we will be ok.Almost 5 years later I have since given her permission (as in my blessing) to punnish my kid when he is bad and I even address her as his step mom. She has proven herself to me that she is there for the long run and not just a drive by gf. She loves my son and she shows it and she never talks trash about me in front of him. I think the first time i realizede I had respect for her was when my son busted his head open and I went to the ER. His dad faints when he see's blood but she came in the room with me while he got his head stitched up just so I wasnt alone. I knew then she was someone I trusted and I respected her for it.
Be wise, but be accepting too. Neither of you will be single for ever and as ur daughters parents.. u have to meet on a common ground at some point. I wish u luck. Email me directly any time if u need advice. I know what its like to be 16 with a goofy baby daddy ;) he'll man up .. dont worry :)Can I limit how often my baby's dad sees our kid?
Yes it is wrong. You two are no longer together. He can do whatever he wants in his free time. It is not about you or him anymore. It's about the baby you made together. He has every right to see his child and she has every right to see him.
Is there a reason you haven't sought out child support? You can make his parents pay if he's still a minor.
';Is it right of me to say that as long as he is still involved with her that when he comes to see his daughter that it will only be at certain times?';
No. Good heavens.
You're a mother -- you need to let go of the drama, let go of the guy, and do, in every situation, what is best for your child.
You can't punish your kid by limiting access to Daddy just because you don't like who Daddy's seeing.
';I don't think its fair that he goes off and does whatever he wants knowing it upsets me but he still thinks he can come around and see our baby whenever and act like everything is fine between us?';
Why isn't it fair? You are no longer a couple. He's allowed to do whatever he pleases when not around you and your baby, and there is no rational reason for it to upset you.
If he is friendly towards you when you do see each other -- follow his lead, be friendly. Again, ask yourself: what's best for my child? Answer: her parents being nice to each other.
Ok you say you dont think its fair that he goes off and does whatever he wants knowing it upsets you....? Sorry to say, but who cares if you get upset? It's no longer about you if you guys aren't together. I know your only 16 but you have to be an adult now even though your not. The fact of the matter is, it doesn't matter if he ';upsets'; you, your not his priority or responsibility. The baby is. And as long as he is trying to see her and be there for her that's all you need to be concerned with. If you think he's sleeping with the other girl, while still trying to be with you, let go of his a** and move on! He's gonna have a life that doesn't revolve around you, but you can't say ';you can't see your daughter'; because he's with someone else. Unfortunately he doesn't owe you anything just because you two have a kid together. Put him on child support and just make sure your baby is taken care of. You need to put your personal feelings about him aside.
You can limit his time with her while she is around. For example, you can tell him that you are not comfortable with this other girl being around your daughter, so he will either have to come over to see her without the other girl around, or he can only have her while the other girl isn't around. If you guys aren't together, you shouldn't be worried about what he does with her. It's frustrating, I understand that, but he has his own life as well. Try to put yourself in his shoes. What if it was you who was seeing another guy? Wouldn't you want your daughters father to be accepting? It's also good for your daughter to see you guys getting along, rather than fighting over this.
The big issue is that you guys have a daughter, and you guys, together, have to make the effort to be the best parents possible to her. You should not deny your daughter her father just because you don't like his 'friend'. If that were the case, most of the children whose parents aren't together would never see one parent.
It just isn't fair to your daughter. Is he a good father to her? If so, don't limit his time with her.
It is my understanding, that since you two are un married, that you can tell him when he can and can not see your child, BUT don't cut him off completely, your daughter should be allowed to see her daddy, and vic versa.
Tell him that you don't feel comfortable with the influance this other girl has over him, and until she's out of the picture, you're going to limit the time he sees his daughter, because you don't want her to get attached (I know she's two months, but still) to him, only to have the other girl, take him away.
Ok... well first off techinically you can tell him he cant see her at all till he takes you to court and gets visitation. However, I am NOT suggesting this. Thats a horrible idea and its absurd to keep a father from his child just because your relationship isnt going well. Its not about yall anymore.
I understand your frustration trust me. I am a mother of one and soon to be of two. I am not with either of their fathers and its hard not to use the only vice you feel you have. However, thats not fair for your child, you should never try and keep a father from his child. He wants to be a father and you should feel lucky! There are some men who dont want anything to do with their children.
The only issue I would have, is if he feels he can come in and out of her life. As long as his visitations are regular and he is continuously trying to be a part of her life, you should feel lucky.
PS Child support and visitation have NOTHING to do with eachother.
Darling, im not going to sugar coat my answer to spare feelings here.I tell it like it is.
You are jealous and you are thinking of yourself.First off, this other girl did not ruin your relationship.HE chose to be with her over you.Get over it.You will find a guy someday that will love you and won't want to be with anyone else.He obviously doesn't want to be tied down to one girlfriend so let him go.Why would you want to be with him if he isn't 100% comitted to you? that's silly.
You are willing punishing your daughter because of the broken relationship.That is not fair.It isn't about you and it isn't about him.Its about the child.You two need to grow up and start acting like parents instead of jr. high kids bickering over petty things.We are talking about a child here.
You shouldn't punish her from seeing her dad just because he is with someone else.You can't dictate who he dates and he can't dictate who you date.You also can't use your kid as a pawn so he can stop dating her.It doesn't matter if it upsets you.You are letting it upset you when you know you should move on.
He will never stop being her father even though he stopped being your boyfriend.Don't take it out on the kid.That is his baby and he has his rights to see her.Do you want this going to court? because if it does, he will be able to go after her for 50/50.At least when he is visiting, you have some say on what happens and where she goes.
I'm 16 years old and two months ago I had my first child with my ex boyfriend. He visits every weekend and occasionally during the week. For about a month after our daughter was born he was dating this one chick who wouldn't let him see her and who coincidentally ruined mine and his relationship. I have never liked her, and he ended up braking up with her so he could visit me and the baby. He has talked many times about having a relationship with me again which is why he has visited more. Because he wants to be close to me and our baby because he thinks that it will give her the best life possible.
But now his ex girlfriend is back in the picture. (they aren't dating but from what i hear from his mom is that they spend almost every day together) She wakes him up in the morning for school and they hang out almost every day after school as well. He says they are just friends and since they aren't having sex that I shouldn't be pissed.
But my question is, can I limit how often he gets to see our baby because I don't think its fair that he goes off and does whatever he wants knowing it upsets me but he still thinks he can come around and see our baby whenever and act like everything is fine between us?
Is it right of me to say that as long as he is still involved with her that when he comes to see his daughter that it will only be at certain times?Can I limit how often my baby's dad sees our kid?
OK.. I have a lot to say about this situation. Some you may like and some you may not but my intentions is only to give you the BEST advice I can.
Number one I want you inform you, I dont know where you live, BUT in the state of OHIO the child is born into the custody of the mother if the child wasnt a result of a marriage. AKA If you didnt marry him, YOU HAVE ALL RIGHTS. - Check into this in your state but I know for a fact this is how it is here.
Number two, I know its hardd being in your shoes. I had my son when I was 16 and his daddy cheated on me with anything that had a hole really. But I ALWAYS KEPT THIS IN MIND, ';He sucks as a spouse but is a damn good dad.'; But he wasnt at first. He was more worried about getting the next whore in line. So .. how did I teach him to grow up? Well number one, I left him. I allowed an open relationship with my son however also told him set times so it wouldnt inconvenience my life as well. I allowed every other weekend over night visits (which he never did willingly until my son was almost 2 - but the option was there). I never said no (unless I was busy) about visiting randomly but I told him until he could prove he was willing to be a father, dont bother. He was in and out and only there when it was convenient for him at first, WHICH IS NOT FAIR. So thats how I handled it.
Now I understand your concerns. BUT make sure you make choices for the right reasons. If he is in and out of the kids life when its convenient for HIM and isnt there regularly (every other weekend or when ever you guys have scheduled) then its ok to be stern. Dont let him walk all over you, but keep in mind.. that is your childs father and no matter how he irritates you, your baby needs to see her dad. Make a schedule with him letting him know these are set times, if you dont show an effort to be in her life, then we will wait until you are grown enough to handle being a father. Its also not fair your daughter has a daddy in her life one day and then out for a month, its confusing and wrong. But if he is making an effort, work with him.
I wouldnt suggest getting back with him because personally that feeling he has left you with will always be there. But work with him on being a dad. Guys are sometimes pretty slow with becoming an adult even when they made adult decisions.
Another word of advice, NEVER talk bad about him in front of your daughter. NO MATTER HOW BAD he hurts you. Let HER make her own decision. I find it very important that I never did this and my son was able to love his dad for being a dad and not for sucking at being there for me. My son loves his daddy, and while one day he will find out (i assume) how his father did treat me, he will understand that it was an adult situation and never played a part in how much his dad loves him. (THis is just a personal choice on how I handled it and an offer of advice for a similar situation)
Last .. I wanted to let you know.. the road was bumpy, long, and hard. But here I am today almost 23 and with an almost 6yr old son and his dad and I are NOT together and never would be but his dad is very much in his life. As a matter of a fact I am very good friends with his fiance. He grew up and took responsibility on his own, with a lil shove from me ;) I never discuss the bad parts in front of my son and I take pride in that, and I think his dad respects it too and I got a sincere appology from his dad a couple years back for all the BS he put me through.
I know another woman being there is difficult. AT ANY AGE its difficult, but you can manage. Just keep your head up. I let his fiance know from the start this is MY Kid. Dont lay a hand (punnish) my son, dont down my name in front of him, and dont dare have him call u mom and we will be ok.Almost 5 years later I have since given her permission (as in my blessing) to punnish my kid when he is bad and I even address her as his step mom. She has proven herself to me that she is there for the long run and not just a drive by gf. She loves my son and she shows it and she never talks trash about me in front of him. I think the first time i realizede I had respect for her was when my son busted his head open and I went to the ER. His dad faints when he see's blood but she came in the room with me while he got his head stitched up just so I wasnt alone. I knew then she was someone I trusted and I respected her for it.
Be wise, but be accepting too. Neither of you will be single for ever and as ur daughters parents.. u have to meet on a common ground at some point. I wish u luck. Email me directly any time if u need advice. I know what its like to be 16 with a goofy baby daddy ;) he'll man up .. dont worry :)Can I limit how often my baby's dad sees our kid?
Yes it is wrong. You two are no longer together. He can do whatever he wants in his free time. It is not about you or him anymore. It's about the baby you made together. He has every right to see his child and she has every right to see him.
Is there a reason you haven't sought out child support? You can make his parents pay if he's still a minor.
';Is it right of me to say that as long as he is still involved with her that when he comes to see his daughter that it will only be at certain times?';
No. Good heavens.
You're a mother -- you need to let go of the drama, let go of the guy, and do, in every situation, what is best for your child.
You can't punish your kid by limiting access to Daddy just because you don't like who Daddy's seeing.
';I don't think its fair that he goes off and does whatever he wants knowing it upsets me but he still thinks he can come around and see our baby whenever and act like everything is fine between us?';
Why isn't it fair? You are no longer a couple. He's allowed to do whatever he pleases when not around you and your baby, and there is no rational reason for it to upset you.
If he is friendly towards you when you do see each other -- follow his lead, be friendly. Again, ask yourself: what's best for my child? Answer: her parents being nice to each other.
Ok you say you dont think its fair that he goes off and does whatever he wants knowing it upsets you....? Sorry to say, but who cares if you get upset? It's no longer about you if you guys aren't together. I know your only 16 but you have to be an adult now even though your not. The fact of the matter is, it doesn't matter if he ';upsets'; you, your not his priority or responsibility. The baby is. And as long as he is trying to see her and be there for her that's all you need to be concerned with. If you think he's sleeping with the other girl, while still trying to be with you, let go of his a** and move on! He's gonna have a life that doesn't revolve around you, but you can't say ';you can't see your daughter'; because he's with someone else. Unfortunately he doesn't owe you anything just because you two have a kid together. Put him on child support and just make sure your baby is taken care of. You need to put your personal feelings about him aside.
You can limit his time with her while she is around. For example, you can tell him that you are not comfortable with this other girl being around your daughter, so he will either have to come over to see her without the other girl around, or he can only have her while the other girl isn't around. If you guys aren't together, you shouldn't be worried about what he does with her. It's frustrating, I understand that, but he has his own life as well. Try to put yourself in his shoes. What if it was you who was seeing another guy? Wouldn't you want your daughters father to be accepting? It's also good for your daughter to see you guys getting along, rather than fighting over this.
The big issue is that you guys have a daughter, and you guys, together, have to make the effort to be the best parents possible to her. You should not deny your daughter her father just because you don't like his 'friend'. If that were the case, most of the children whose parents aren't together would never see one parent.
It just isn't fair to your daughter. Is he a good father to her? If so, don't limit his time with her.
It is my understanding, that since you two are un married, that you can tell him when he can and can not see your child, BUT don't cut him off completely, your daughter should be allowed to see her daddy, and vic versa.
Tell him that you don't feel comfortable with the influance this other girl has over him, and until she's out of the picture, you're going to limit the time he sees his daughter, because you don't want her to get attached (I know she's two months, but still) to him, only to have the other girl, take him away.
Ok... well first off techinically you can tell him he cant see her at all till he takes you to court and gets visitation. However, I am NOT suggesting this. Thats a horrible idea and its absurd to keep a father from his child just because your relationship isnt going well. Its not about yall anymore.
I understand your frustration trust me. I am a mother of one and soon to be of two. I am not with either of their fathers and its hard not to use the only vice you feel you have. However, thats not fair for your child, you should never try and keep a father from his child. He wants to be a father and you should feel lucky! There are some men who dont want anything to do with their children.
The only issue I would have, is if he feels he can come in and out of her life. As long as his visitations are regular and he is continuously trying to be a part of her life, you should feel lucky.
PS Child support and visitation have NOTHING to do with eachother.
Darling, im not going to sugar coat my answer to spare feelings here.I tell it like it is.
You are jealous and you are thinking of yourself.First off, this other girl did not ruin your relationship.HE chose to be with her over you.Get over it.You will find a guy someday that will love you and won't want to be with anyone else.He obviously doesn't want to be tied down to one girlfriend so let him go.Why would you want to be with him if he isn't 100% comitted to you? that's silly.
You are willing punishing your daughter because of the broken relationship.That is not fair.It isn't about you and it isn't about him.Its about the child.You two need to grow up and start acting like parents instead of jr. high kids bickering over petty things.We are talking about a child here.
You shouldn't punish her from seeing her dad just because he is with someone else.You can't dictate who he dates and he can't dictate who you date.You also can't use your kid as a pawn so he can stop dating her.It doesn't matter if it upsets you.You are letting it upset you when you know you should move on.
He will never stop being her father even though he stopped being your boyfriend.Don't take it out on the kid.That is his baby and he has his rights to see her.Do you want this going to court? because if it does, he will be able to go after her for 50/50.At least when he is visiting, you have some say on what happens and where she goes.
HELP ASAP boy problams. made bigest mistake of my life. i need major help. and i hope you like to read alot lo?
i liked this guy since the kindergarten and he never really liked me back he was one of those pretty boys that all the girls liked. than in the 6th grade he asked me out on october 26 than when i realized that he really really liked me my head got way to big. no one else in the class had boyfriends or girlfriends yet so i felt awkward dating someone because i didn't want moms in our grade saying ';that little girl moves to fast i don't want my daughter hanging out with her!';
So i would brake up with him alot because that thought kept racing in my head. He really really liked me and i'm not just saying that he got me an angel statue and said i got this for you for 2 reasons one because your an angel and 2 because our song is guardian angel. i wa his first love, first girlfriend,first kiss,first slow dance everything! i know this sounds weird but i'm 13 and i think i'm in love with him.
i broke up with him on the phone and he never came back he got a new girlfriend and it broke my heart i think she is just the rebond girl. but now he is dating a asian girl and she's okay lookin shes nice but i know that i am prettier and i dont want to sound concited but its the truth. i used to think that i was his love and that he would come back but idk anymore. i really miss him alot and am trying to get in his head but dont really know how. i am madly in love and thought for a long time that he wouldnt have forgotten about his first love. he asked the aisian girl out at his exgirlfriends going away party because she was moving to rode island.
guys how would a girl win your heart
girls what do you think about the story and what should i doHELP ASAP boy problams. made bigest mistake of my life. i need major help. and i hope you like to read alot lo?
why don't you just tell him how you feel ..you're holding back because of fear...but situations like this requires taking risk....HELP ASAP boy problams. made bigest mistake of my life. i need major help. and i hope you like to read alot lo?
your story is sad why'd you break up with him in the first place. I suggest come clean and staight up get hm alone with you for two minute play your favorite song and talk to him just tell him how you feel sorry but I can't any tricky moves to this one
it doesn't make sense why you broke up with him. if you really loved him than what people thought shouldn't have effected your thoughts. and you may never get him back. you already had your chance and ruined it every time. you can't get him back cause you played with his heart. just move on and get over you screwing up a relationship.
So i would brake up with him alot because that thought kept racing in my head. He really really liked me and i'm not just saying that he got me an angel statue and said i got this for you for 2 reasons one because your an angel and 2 because our song is guardian angel. i wa his first love, first girlfriend,first kiss,first slow dance everything! i know this sounds weird but i'm 13 and i think i'm in love with him.
i broke up with him on the phone and he never came back he got a new girlfriend and it broke my heart i think she is just the rebond girl. but now he is dating a asian girl and she's okay lookin shes nice but i know that i am prettier and i dont want to sound concited but its the truth. i used to think that i was his love and that he would come back but idk anymore. i really miss him alot and am trying to get in his head but dont really know how. i am madly in love and thought for a long time that he wouldnt have forgotten about his first love. he asked the aisian girl out at his exgirlfriends going away party because she was moving to rode island.
guys how would a girl win your heart
girls what do you think about the story and what should i doHELP ASAP boy problams. made bigest mistake of my life. i need major help. and i hope you like to read alot lo?
why don't you just tell him how you feel ..you're holding back because of fear...but situations like this requires taking risk....HELP ASAP boy problams. made bigest mistake of my life. i need major help. and i hope you like to read alot lo?
your story is sad why'd you break up with him in the first place. I suggest come clean and staight up get hm alone with you for two minute play your favorite song and talk to him just tell him how you feel sorry but I can't any tricky moves to this one
it doesn't make sense why you broke up with him. if you really loved him than what people thought shouldn't have effected your thoughts. and you may never get him back. you already had your chance and ruined it every time. you can't get him back cause you played with his heart. just move on and get over you screwing up a relationship.
I like a guy but......?
I like this guy but he is going out with one of my friends. They went out once before but he broke up with her and then she asked him back out and he said yes. so now they are still going out. I know it is not a good thing to flirt with your friends boyfriend but i can't help my self. I like him that mutch. I have been crushing over him for like a year now. And i am almost possitive that he dosen't like me the way i like him.
What do i do? i mean how do i get over this heart brake?I've tried to forget about him but it didn't work.Junior high relation ships don't last do they?
help please! and plaese don't say i am pethetic!I like a guy but......?
generally not even high school relationships don't work. depending on how good of a friend it is flirting never hurt anyone . if its a good friend leave it alone if y'all are not the best of friends make him think he will never have a chance with you and he will want you that much more. but if she is a good friend just keep your thoughts and fantasies to your self and find another guy. there are a nilion fish in the sea
What do i do? i mean how do i get over this heart brake?I've tried to forget about him but it didn't work.Junior high relation ships don't last do they?
help please! and plaese don't say i am pethetic!I like a guy but......?
generally not even high school relationships don't work. depending on how good of a friend it is flirting never hurt anyone . if its a good friend leave it alone if y'all are not the best of friends make him think he will never have a chance with you and he will want you that much more. but if she is a good friend just keep your thoughts and fantasies to your self and find another guy. there are a nilion fish in the sea
Relationship trouble?
i dont know why but im always pushing my boyfriend away. i keep being so occupied with being perfect for him that i dont know how much my narcissistic behaviour is affecting him.
i sound so manipulative and actually come across selfish.... but i dont know why..? i get scared about caring for people that i end up runing away from them - its quite odd. i dont want to hurt him because i have problems, but keep braking up with him just makes it worse instead of relieving him of me.
what should i do with this attitude i have?
last night he sounded really down i thought he'd do something stupid. so i have to stop this; but how?
pls leave me your opinionsRelationship trouble?
well ive heard exercising clears the mood of the problem you have ..
do some of tht and also do something you really enjoy before seeing him again
And I thought I had troubles lol =) sorry ....Relationship trouble?
Yes you are selfish and manipulative. You read your own mail and he read his. Don't assume and conclude on his behave. Constantly ask for break ups are irritating and discouraging. Instead of working things out together, break up seem to be an easy escape for you. Be more open to him about your feeling and ask him for suggestions to mend your odd behaviour.
seek counseling
Maybe, you need time to be on your own. Sometimes, letting a person go would make you realize that they mean so much more to you. If you're really worried and occupied with other things, maybe, you ought to talk to him and cool off since you can't be there as well when he needs you.
you should tell him what you told us right here, he'll respond. and together you two will work through it.
The best way to overcome a problem is to admit it not only to yourself but also to the person you care about that way he'll help you overcome your problem. I think he's down because he thinks that you really don't care about him the sadness you see is proof that he cares about you.I think what you are really doing is trying to be perfect so you will not get hurt its. Getting hurt is scary but its a part of life you grow through the hurt you learn more about yourself and what you really want. You need to start accepting the fact that at one point in your life you will be hurt theirs no one on earth who has never been hurt.Don't let this fear get the best of you because you'll miss out on a lot in life and don't stress yourself out on being perfect because no one is and will never be perfect just be yourself love is about accepting eachother the way we are with our good points and bad ones.Open up to him talk it over and relax you really don't want to lose a good relationship from being scarred.
i sound so manipulative and actually come across selfish.... but i dont know why..? i get scared about caring for people that i end up runing away from them - its quite odd. i dont want to hurt him because i have problems, but keep braking up with him just makes it worse instead of relieving him of me.
what should i do with this attitude i have?
last night he sounded really down i thought he'd do something stupid. so i have to stop this; but how?
pls leave me your opinionsRelationship trouble?
well ive heard exercising clears the mood of the problem you have ..
do some of tht and also do something you really enjoy before seeing him again
And I thought I had troubles lol =) sorry ....Relationship trouble?
Yes you are selfish and manipulative. You read your own mail and he read his. Don't assume and conclude on his behave. Constantly ask for break ups are irritating and discouraging. Instead of working things out together, break up seem to be an easy escape for you. Be more open to him about your feeling and ask him for suggestions to mend your odd behaviour.
seek counseling
Maybe, you need time to be on your own. Sometimes, letting a person go would make you realize that they mean so much more to you. If you're really worried and occupied with other things, maybe, you ought to talk to him and cool off since you can't be there as well when he needs you.
you should tell him what you told us right here, he'll respond. and together you two will work through it.
The best way to overcome a problem is to admit it not only to yourself but also to the person you care about that way he'll help you overcome your problem. I think he's down because he thinks that you really don't care about him the sadness you see is proof that he cares about you.I think what you are really doing is trying to be perfect so you will not get hurt its. Getting hurt is scary but its a part of life you grow through the hurt you learn more about yourself and what you really want. You need to start accepting the fact that at one point in your life you will be hurt theirs no one on earth who has never been hurt.Don't let this fear get the best of you because you'll miss out on a lot in life and don't stress yourself out on being perfect because no one is and will never be perfect just be yourself love is about accepting eachother the way we are with our good points and bad ones.Open up to him talk it over and relax you really don't want to lose a good relationship from being scarred.
How can i make her see how much i love her?
Im 19 years old and ive had this beautiful best-friend of mine for 8 years, and to be completely honest.. she is the most amazing, drop dead gorgeous women ive ever met! God crafted a Truly unique person and everyone can see it, i mean just WOW! Anyway, we've been really good friends with her since middle school and our relationship is the best shes like my own personal therapist and comedian but i was always ok with being friends. Until we turned 13 and she was taken to a different foster house and i accidentally ran into her last year and WOW! I mean fellas 5'5, Native, naturally pitch black hair straight down to the butt, full lips, clear tan skin, a 38-40? C cup breast, a tiny nice trim waist and the most yummy, handful and THEN SOME BOOTY, with beautiful feet, and the most amazing, dark and deep eyes! just WOW! i saw her and my jaw dropped and to this day i never picked up from the ground. For months we hanged out and its nothing i've ever felt before and i had my best-friend back and it ROCKED! She's a poet, she loves climbing trees, she loves to cook and i have no complaint, shes so funny and smart, she can sing like a angel and when she dances in pow wow it will almost make you cry, she is the farthest thing from drama or gossip, loves kids and does almost every charity under the sun, i have not met one person who didnt want to be her friend, and this out-look on life that will just blow you away. but once she introduced me to her new boyfriend that i had no idea she had. It got ugly, i became jealous, hurt and imtimidated just the sight of them. And all i can possibly think is she is to good for him and within a month i realized . . I LOVE HER, She is perfect and i want her all the time, so finally i thought, its now or never. So i told her everything i even broke down and cried in front of her?(i know, what a puss) and she cracked a joke and made me luagh. Then she said shes in love.. but not with me and now i need any advice and every advice to brake em up. Cuase i just HAVE to have her i cant possibly live without her im desprate! i know for a fact i can give her everything he cant so HELP!!! PLEASE be a least a lil sympathetic for me in your answers please?How can i make her see how much i love her?
if you love her you will want her to be happy right? and if she's happy now why would you want to break them up and make her miserable. if you cant live without her just stay friends with her, better than not being in her live at all. dont become a weird green eyed monster, she will back away. just stay good friends and if things with her and her current bf dont work out and your there for her, who knows maybe something will happen between you guys:)How can i make her see how much i love her?
wow u r good ,good and get her then :)
Dont worry. I'm very sympathetic toward you. We've all been there. Sadly you have no control over whether she stays with this guy or not. If you do anything to try to come between her and her boyfriend and she finds out about it, you will have no chance because she will hate you for it.
Your only options are to either wait and HOPE she breaks up with him herself and becomes available(terrible idea, because you will be tortured)
or
do your best to deal with your emotions and date other people(your best bet).
She told you she just wants to be friends. You had better accept that even though I know its hard.
Being friends a long time is a positive. Seems like your are in love
with her physical appearence,that's also good but you and she needs
to have things in common. At 19 you had better grow up a little more.
Physical attractions are certainly not enough.She would only hate you if you got in the way of her boyfriend and her frienship. Get going with your own life, college and doing what you need to do to improve your thinking and realization of what you are doing. If you must have
a girlfriend I am sure one is close to you that you can't see for
thinking of her. GET OVER IT and go on with you life positively.
Awwwww! This is very sweet. Why didn't you tell her ahead of time? But anyway sometimes it takes longer to express feelings and to express yourself so I can understand. But she's in love now and for some females they won't change they're minds at all Love is something powerful and who knows how long they've been together, maybe things have gotten very serious in their relationship. I mean even if try to break them up how would you be helping her. She's going to probably be hurt if they ever break up and then you have to see her in tears and sad for something that you caused. Now if she was to find out that you broke her and her current boyfriend up she will probably hate you for that and give you NO PLAY. Just wait out and continue being friends with her you never what could happen in the long run. If you two are meant it will happen if not I just wish for the best. You've let her know how feel already and you don't want to keep pushing it because she might just give up on you completely. So hold in there. Remember you don't want to hurt her by making someone disappear that she's in love with, you want to love her and make her happy. Because once a relationship is over with someone you were in love with it takes time to let someone else in you heart. And with some females it takes a lot of time to get over someone. So think about everything before you make a decision to break them up. Just be her friend, love her, and make her happy; Maybe things will change. I WISH YOU BOTH THE BEST.myspace icons computer protection
if you love her you will want her to be happy right? and if she's happy now why would you want to break them up and make her miserable. if you cant live without her just stay friends with her, better than not being in her live at all. dont become a weird green eyed monster, she will back away. just stay good friends and if things with her and her current bf dont work out and your there for her, who knows maybe something will happen between you guys:)How can i make her see how much i love her?
wow u r good ,good and get her then :)
Dont worry. I'm very sympathetic toward you. We've all been there. Sadly you have no control over whether she stays with this guy or not. If you do anything to try to come between her and her boyfriend and she finds out about it, you will have no chance because she will hate you for it.
Your only options are to either wait and HOPE she breaks up with him herself and becomes available(terrible idea, because you will be tortured)
or
do your best to deal with your emotions and date other people(your best bet).
She told you she just wants to be friends. You had better accept that even though I know its hard.
Being friends a long time is a positive. Seems like your are in love
with her physical appearence,that's also good but you and she needs
to have things in common. At 19 you had better grow up a little more.
Physical attractions are certainly not enough.She would only hate you if you got in the way of her boyfriend and her frienship. Get going with your own life, college and doing what you need to do to improve your thinking and realization of what you are doing. If you must have
a girlfriend I am sure one is close to you that you can't see for
thinking of her. GET OVER IT and go on with you life positively.
Awwwww! This is very sweet. Why didn't you tell her ahead of time? But anyway sometimes it takes longer to express feelings and to express yourself so I can understand. But she's in love now and for some females they won't change they're minds at all Love is something powerful and who knows how long they've been together, maybe things have gotten very serious in their relationship. I mean even if try to break them up how would you be helping her. She's going to probably be hurt if they ever break up and then you have to see her in tears and sad for something that you caused. Now if she was to find out that you broke her and her current boyfriend up she will probably hate you for that and give you NO PLAY. Just wait out and continue being friends with her you never what could happen in the long run. If you two are meant it will happen if not I just wish for the best. You've let her know how feel already and you don't want to keep pushing it because she might just give up on you completely. So hold in there. Remember you don't want to hurt her by making someone disappear that she's in love with, you want to love her and make her happy. Because once a relationship is over with someone you were in love with it takes time to let someone else in you heart. And with some females it takes a lot of time to get over someone. So think about everything before you make a decision to break them up. Just be her friend, love her, and make her happy; Maybe things will change. I WISH YOU BOTH THE BEST.
Please will you help me out??? What should I do?
Sorry, I know that this is long, but I would really genuinly like your help on this matter. THANKS in advance people..
I'm at university on campus. I was in the club at my university last night. I basically got dancing very sensually with a girl i know. She is in my film production class. It was to the point that i was kissing her almost bare chest, and we were kissing and touching a lot etc... Late that night I took her to my room.. we kissed, talked a lot and did a lot of other things but didn't actually have sex. This girl has a boyfriend, but she doesn't like him and is planning on braking up with him soon. She is a decent girl, despite how everything may sound.. today she was all different with me, saying how she was drunk and sorry if she led me on etc.. I know she has feelings for me, though.. Now she will barely even speak to me, but txt me saying that she will just speak to me in class... I know she likes me though. What should I do?? Should I just leave her be? Or carry on after her??
She also in a jokish way keeps saying that she thinks I am a player, but I actully am not one.. Cause I'm quote and quote ';good looking'; she think that I just get with every nice girl I see and that isn't the case, but anyhoo, I think I have said enough now..
P.S. Her saying that she was drunk is a lie, cause by the time i got her to my room she was a lot more sober, to the point she was able to use my computer and go onto youtube and listen to music... lol...
To me it seems like she is partially avoiding me cause she does actually like me, and feels that if she gets too close she will cheat on her boyfriend/on whats left of her relationship..Please will you help me out??? What should I do?
Nice score man i know sorta how this feels :S lol, well she obviously likes you alot, personally let the heat di down from her bf then go for it , women can be strange sometimes,,,,, happy days dude good luck!Please will you help me out??? What should I do?
well to me she's just playing with you,but all i would have to say is...if you like her alot ask her out but if your not to sure just let her be for now and see what happens next....
man who goes fishing in other mans pond is bound to catch crabs.
seriously dude have some morals. wait for her and her boyfriend to sort out their relationship. there must be other single girls u could get to know. or are u just so desperate u take whatever cheater u can get
Wow mate... I will tell you something. The feminine mind is pretty hard to understand. However I think I have the answer for you. Try asking her out, when she breaks up with her boyfriend. If the guy is not that big you can ask her out anyway. Tell her the truth... she might just be testing to see how you fell about her. It sounds like you fancy her, and if that is the case just open up. If you don't she might think you don't like her and you don't want that. I liked the idea that she went on youtube and all that stuff without vomiting on your computer ( seems like she wasn't drunk huh? ). Also if you don't like her, don't even bother. Well... I think that is all. I mean, did I say good luck already?Ohh ok..
Good luck with her mate!
if you think she's worth going after then you should
I'm at university on campus. I was in the club at my university last night. I basically got dancing very sensually with a girl i know. She is in my film production class. It was to the point that i was kissing her almost bare chest, and we were kissing and touching a lot etc... Late that night I took her to my room.. we kissed, talked a lot and did a lot of other things but didn't actually have sex. This girl has a boyfriend, but she doesn't like him and is planning on braking up with him soon. She is a decent girl, despite how everything may sound.. today she was all different with me, saying how she was drunk and sorry if she led me on etc.. I know she has feelings for me, though.. Now she will barely even speak to me, but txt me saying that she will just speak to me in class... I know she likes me though. What should I do?? Should I just leave her be? Or carry on after her??
She also in a jokish way keeps saying that she thinks I am a player, but I actully am not one.. Cause I'm quote and quote ';good looking'; she think that I just get with every nice girl I see and that isn't the case, but anyhoo, I think I have said enough now..
P.S. Her saying that she was drunk is a lie, cause by the time i got her to my room she was a lot more sober, to the point she was able to use my computer and go onto youtube and listen to music... lol...
To me it seems like she is partially avoiding me cause she does actually like me, and feels that if she gets too close she will cheat on her boyfriend/on whats left of her relationship..Please will you help me out??? What should I do?
Nice score man i know sorta how this feels :S lol, well she obviously likes you alot, personally let the heat di down from her bf then go for it , women can be strange sometimes,,,,, happy days dude good luck!Please will you help me out??? What should I do?
well to me she's just playing with you,but all i would have to say is...if you like her alot ask her out but if your not to sure just let her be for now and see what happens next....
man who goes fishing in other mans pond is bound to catch crabs.
seriously dude have some morals. wait for her and her boyfriend to sort out their relationship. there must be other single girls u could get to know. or are u just so desperate u take whatever cheater u can get
Wow mate... I will tell you something. The feminine mind is pretty hard to understand. However I think I have the answer for you. Try asking her out, when she breaks up with her boyfriend. If the guy is not that big you can ask her out anyway. Tell her the truth... she might just be testing to see how you fell about her. It sounds like you fancy her, and if that is the case just open up. If you don't she might think you don't like her and you don't want that. I liked the idea that she went on youtube and all that stuff without vomiting on your computer ( seems like she wasn't drunk huh? ). Also if you don't like her, don't even bother. Well... I think that is all. I mean, did I say good luck already?Ohh ok..
Good luck with her mate!
if you think she's worth going after then you should
Just need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
i am 15 and found out i am pregnant i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year he is 16 turning 17 in april next year.
he isnt your normal guy he always puts me before anything we both love each other and he wants to be here to help me and is coming with me to the doctors to my next appointments we dont want this baby to make our relationship hard so we both arnt going to let it brake us up
he says he loves me and eventually wants to marry me but all i read is negative stories about how teen mums are bad ones they will be single the dad with leave them blah blah but i need to postivie advice to help me
i dont want to get an abortion i have support from all my family and friends but i get scared i dont want to loose my boyfriend cause most the storys i read make me think negative please help me :(
xJust need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
Get the abortion, he won't stick around for the long haul and you don't want to be stuck alone with a baby. But that's just my opinion.
If you go to a Planned Parenthood clinic that has a low-income program it can be as cheap as 100$. If you tells them you have no job, no money and no support they will likely have you pay the minimum for the procedure and get donations to cover the rest. 1-800-230-PLAN (1-800-230-7526) to find the Planned Parenthood clinic nearest you. If you are underage it will mostly likely be free.
You have the choice between the pill (which can be taken up to 11weeks, at home or at a friends house) or the vacuum method (in clinic procedure). Personally I used the pill method so I could be at home with my husband but some women want to have the surgical, so it's done and over with when they leave the clinic.
You will be financially screened - usually this goes on the honor system, weight/height taken, blood pressure checked, pricked -fingertip- to check for rH factor and anemia, you will receive an ultrasound or sonogram to determine gestational age. You may be asked if you want to view the image, this is up to you. You will receive antibiotics, anti-nausea tabs and pain meds. Take them ALL. You must finish at the very least your course of antibiotics. Follow all aftercare instructions and go back to your after care appt. This last step is vital, you must go back for your aftercare appt! Abortion begins a new menstrual cycle. You should have a regular period in 4 to 8 weeks.you should have the option of receiving birth control - again this will most likely be free, take it and use it correctly.
If you are underage you may want to check this site out to see about parental consent laws and whatnot. http://www.sexetc.org/state *Even if it says you need parental consent, you don't. Call PP and tell them you cannot tell your parents; by law, a judicial bypass must be available to those minors who just cannot get their parents/guardians permission. A judge signs the parental consent acting as a de facto guardian.
Some state medicaid program do pay for it, use this link and figure out if your state covers it. If they do, you can go to ';welfare'; office and get emergency coverage and the state and taxes will help pay for it. http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/c鈥?/a>
I respect that it is your choice and understand that you are probably doing what's best for you. If you have any more questions or want/need to talk about it drop me an email.
It is entirely possible to have an abortion and not feel guilt because you knew it was the right thing to do.
ImNotSorry.net
~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion %26lt;no regrets%26gt; and I have a 9 month old daughter %26lt;no regrets%26gt;. I believe in protecting my daughter's choice.
Abortion: There is a Consensus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsSQiazUv鈥?/a>Just need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
The guys who leave their pregnant girlfriends are jerks. So far, your boyfriend sounds like one of the good ones. You have a lot a head of you so take it one step at a time. Share this blessed event with your boyfriend and just hope that he'll be there for you. Nothing you can do about it if he decides to leave. And you can break the mold by being a good Mum and finishing your schooling so you can support your child with or without a Dad.
No matter what things are going to be hard. Just take it day by day. You never know, your boyfriend might be all he is made out to be. He really might be there no matter what. Dont worry too much on him but focus on raising the baby together no matter what. Good luck!
Only you know your boyfriend. We can't tell you what he may or may not do in the future honey.
are you ready to be a mum at 15?
Getting married when you're a teenager does increase the chance of divorce, but that doesn't mean you can't make it. It will be hard, raising a child is hard. You two will go through ups and downs so remember that it is okay to have some problems. Don't give up when it is getting stressful because you can get through it. Remember forgiveness too, he will probably get on your bad side when he is under too much pressure and you will probably do the same. It might take a long time until your relationship seems the same again because the baby will be the center of attention. When she is sleeping through the night at about 6 to 10 weeks you will get a chance to spend some time with each other. Also remember that the hormones are having a big effect on you. Mood swings and irrationality are a part of this. It is hard to control yourself, I am in my second pregnancy. Let yourself settle down when you get too upset or stressed out and try to think rationally. Honestly, I get mad at my husband for nothing, but it never seems like nothing until I calm down and reconsider. Well, these are things you may experience, I hope I was helpful. Oh, and it is not all bad! I am just giving you example of the hard times you might experience, so I hope you two make it.
Good luck.
well you seem to be getting lots of positive advice on here :)
just thought id share my story with you hun...
i fell pregnant at 14... yes 14.. i was on the pill... unfornutatly it didnt work.
i turned 15 about 4 months after i fell pregnant... and now im 17 with a beautiful 19 month old little girl :) and i couldnt imangine my life without her... i faced alot of crap when i found out i was pregnant.. everything changed.. but im still with my boyfriend who is a fantastic dad.
he works hard to support his family and im so grateful that he is with us.
not all teen mums are bad ones... yes there are plently of them tho.
it just depends on the choices that you make as a parent..
i had all my family tell me i was going to be a horrible parent and that i should abort my baby and i was called everything under the sun even tho ive only slept with my current boyfriend :S
but now.. my parents absoutly love their granddaughter and we just couldnt be happier.. yes it gets tough.. yes there are some hard decisions ahead.. but if you are positive and you believe that you are going to make the right choices and give your child the best possible future then go for it :) all the best darl xxx
No one can predict the future. You could be in your twenties or thirties and be pregnant and it can turn out negative. You are both happy together and want to give it the best you can so give it a go. Its wonderful to hear you have a boyfriend you have been with in a long term relationship and that he treats you well. He is supportive of you and thats a wonderful trait in a partner. Im sure he will continue to be a supportive and loving partner and father. I think the most difficult thing in young relationships is external interference. Keep the communication between the both of you open and honest and know that there will be hard times as well and wonderful times. You will be fine. I wish you the very best for the future.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. You're right, this is going to be the most difficult, exciting, tiring and stressful experience of your life. It will test your relationship and that means you both need to seek some solid support from family, friends and others.
I would suggest that you try to find a teenage pregnancy support group, through a local church, maternity hospital or government agency, so that both of you can meet other parents of a similar age. Sharing your experiences, getting advice and learning from each other may help you through this time.
Having a child at your age is definitely a major life adjustement. But you seem to have everything going for you. Your family and your boyfriend support you. So you have a chance at making it work. You have to be aware that there will be huge difficulties, but it's not impossible. If your boyfriend said he'd stay and marry you someday and that he goes to all the appointments with you, well you know he's a caring guy who will help you out with the kid. I wouldn't say he's definitely gonna marry you (I doubt anyone knows that for sure at 17), but it looks like whether or not you are together, he will help out with the baby and that's the main thing you want.
You need to try and make the most of your life in spite of being a teenage mother. Keeping up with your studies will be difficult but having your friends and family's support is essential here. Too many teenage mother drop out of school which makes their lives so much harder andd generally helps trapping them into long-term poverty. So make sure you do everything you can not to drop out.
Other than that, becoming a new mother should always be the greatest joy of your life, no matter the circumstances. So enjoy it and love your child.
i am 18 and my bf is 22 and we haven't even been together for not even a year and we were only together 6 months and i feel pregnant and we have had some hard times with me constantly having mood swings but we have survived the 13 of october we will have been together a year. We are expecting our little boy in january and my bf is over the moon just be upfront with each other and stick together no matter what and include him in the pregnancy as much as you can you can do it and because of your age u will get a lot of negativity but be strong and enjoy ur pregnancy there are lots of women out there that will never have the joy of child birth and pregnancy so be happy and do whats right by yourself and your baby good luck
he isnt your normal guy he always puts me before anything we both love each other and he wants to be here to help me and is coming with me to the doctors to my next appointments we dont want this baby to make our relationship hard so we both arnt going to let it brake us up
he says he loves me and eventually wants to marry me but all i read is negative stories about how teen mums are bad ones they will be single the dad with leave them blah blah but i need to postivie advice to help me
i dont want to get an abortion i have support from all my family and friends but i get scared i dont want to loose my boyfriend cause most the storys i read make me think negative please help me :(
xJust need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
Get the abortion, he won't stick around for the long haul and you don't want to be stuck alone with a baby. But that's just my opinion.
If you go to a Planned Parenthood clinic that has a low-income program it can be as cheap as 100$. If you tells them you have no job, no money and no support they will likely have you pay the minimum for the procedure and get donations to cover the rest. 1-800-230-PLAN (1-800-230-7526) to find the Planned Parenthood clinic nearest you. If you are underage it will mostly likely be free.
You have the choice between the pill (which can be taken up to 11weeks, at home or at a friends house) or the vacuum method (in clinic procedure). Personally I used the pill method so I could be at home with my husband but some women want to have the surgical, so it's done and over with when they leave the clinic.
You will be financially screened - usually this goes on the honor system, weight/height taken, blood pressure checked, pricked -fingertip- to check for rH factor and anemia, you will receive an ultrasound or sonogram to determine gestational age. You may be asked if you want to view the image, this is up to you. You will receive antibiotics, anti-nausea tabs and pain meds. Take them ALL. You must finish at the very least your course of antibiotics. Follow all aftercare instructions and go back to your after care appt. This last step is vital, you must go back for your aftercare appt! Abortion begins a new menstrual cycle. You should have a regular period in 4 to 8 weeks.you should have the option of receiving birth control - again this will most likely be free, take it and use it correctly.
If you are underage you may want to check this site out to see about parental consent laws and whatnot. http://www.sexetc.org/state *Even if it says you need parental consent, you don't. Call PP and tell them you cannot tell your parents; by law, a judicial bypass must be available to those minors who just cannot get their parents/guardians permission. A judge signs the parental consent acting as a de facto guardian.
Some state medicaid program do pay for it, use this link and figure out if your state covers it. If they do, you can go to ';welfare'; office and get emergency coverage and the state and taxes will help pay for it. http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/c鈥?/a>
I respect that it is your choice and understand that you are probably doing what's best for you. If you have any more questions or want/need to talk about it drop me an email.
It is entirely possible to have an abortion and not feel guilt because you knew it was the right thing to do.
ImNotSorry.net
~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion %26lt;no regrets%26gt; and I have a 9 month old daughter %26lt;no regrets%26gt;. I believe in protecting my daughter's choice.
Abortion: There is a Consensus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsSQiazUv鈥?/a>Just need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
The guys who leave their pregnant girlfriends are jerks. So far, your boyfriend sounds like one of the good ones. You have a lot a head of you so take it one step at a time. Share this blessed event with your boyfriend and just hope that he'll be there for you. Nothing you can do about it if he decides to leave. And you can break the mold by being a good Mum and finishing your schooling so you can support your child with or without a Dad.
No matter what things are going to be hard. Just take it day by day. You never know, your boyfriend might be all he is made out to be. He really might be there no matter what. Dont worry too much on him but focus on raising the baby together no matter what. Good luck!
Only you know your boyfriend. We can't tell you what he may or may not do in the future honey.
are you ready to be a mum at 15?
Getting married when you're a teenager does increase the chance of divorce, but that doesn't mean you can't make it. It will be hard, raising a child is hard. You two will go through ups and downs so remember that it is okay to have some problems. Don't give up when it is getting stressful because you can get through it. Remember forgiveness too, he will probably get on your bad side when he is under too much pressure and you will probably do the same. It might take a long time until your relationship seems the same again because the baby will be the center of attention. When she is sleeping through the night at about 6 to 10 weeks you will get a chance to spend some time with each other. Also remember that the hormones are having a big effect on you. Mood swings and irrationality are a part of this. It is hard to control yourself, I am in my second pregnancy. Let yourself settle down when you get too upset or stressed out and try to think rationally. Honestly, I get mad at my husband for nothing, but it never seems like nothing until I calm down and reconsider. Well, these are things you may experience, I hope I was helpful. Oh, and it is not all bad! I am just giving you example of the hard times you might experience, so I hope you two make it.
Good luck.
well you seem to be getting lots of positive advice on here :)
just thought id share my story with you hun...
i fell pregnant at 14... yes 14.. i was on the pill... unfornutatly it didnt work.
i turned 15 about 4 months after i fell pregnant... and now im 17 with a beautiful 19 month old little girl :) and i couldnt imangine my life without her... i faced alot of crap when i found out i was pregnant.. everything changed.. but im still with my boyfriend who is a fantastic dad.
he works hard to support his family and im so grateful that he is with us.
not all teen mums are bad ones... yes there are plently of them tho.
it just depends on the choices that you make as a parent..
i had all my family tell me i was going to be a horrible parent and that i should abort my baby and i was called everything under the sun even tho ive only slept with my current boyfriend :S
but now.. my parents absoutly love their granddaughter and we just couldnt be happier.. yes it gets tough.. yes there are some hard decisions ahead.. but if you are positive and you believe that you are going to make the right choices and give your child the best possible future then go for it :) all the best darl xxx
No one can predict the future. You could be in your twenties or thirties and be pregnant and it can turn out negative. You are both happy together and want to give it the best you can so give it a go. Its wonderful to hear you have a boyfriend you have been with in a long term relationship and that he treats you well. He is supportive of you and thats a wonderful trait in a partner. Im sure he will continue to be a supportive and loving partner and father. I think the most difficult thing in young relationships is external interference. Keep the communication between the both of you open and honest and know that there will be hard times as well and wonderful times. You will be fine. I wish you the very best for the future.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. You're right, this is going to be the most difficult, exciting, tiring and stressful experience of your life. It will test your relationship and that means you both need to seek some solid support from family, friends and others.
I would suggest that you try to find a teenage pregnancy support group, through a local church, maternity hospital or government agency, so that both of you can meet other parents of a similar age. Sharing your experiences, getting advice and learning from each other may help you through this time.
Having a child at your age is definitely a major life adjustement. But you seem to have everything going for you. Your family and your boyfriend support you. So you have a chance at making it work. You have to be aware that there will be huge difficulties, but it's not impossible. If your boyfriend said he'd stay and marry you someday and that he goes to all the appointments with you, well you know he's a caring guy who will help you out with the kid. I wouldn't say he's definitely gonna marry you (I doubt anyone knows that for sure at 17), but it looks like whether or not you are together, he will help out with the baby and that's the main thing you want.
You need to try and make the most of your life in spite of being a teenage mother. Keeping up with your studies will be difficult but having your friends and family's support is essential here. Too many teenage mother drop out of school which makes their lives so much harder andd generally helps trapping them into long-term poverty. So make sure you do everything you can not to drop out.
Other than that, becoming a new mother should always be the greatest joy of your life, no matter the circumstances. So enjoy it and love your child.
i am 18 and my bf is 22 and we haven't even been together for not even a year and we were only together 6 months and i feel pregnant and we have had some hard times with me constantly having mood swings but we have survived the 13 of october we will have been together a year. We are expecting our little boy in january and my bf is over the moon just be upfront with each other and stick together no matter what and include him in the pregnancy as much as you can you can do it and because of your age u will get a lot of negativity but be strong and enjoy ur pregnancy there are lots of women out there that will never have the joy of child birth and pregnancy so be happy and do whats right by yourself and your baby good luck
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