How do you get your man to stop taking speed?

my boyfriend who i am meant to marry in october is using needles and i don't know should i stay or should i go i love him so much but sometimes he treats me like **** he thinks hes always right but he has never hit me or done bad crap like that but i'm stuck i have a baby to him and i love him so much it would brake my heart if he left but i don't like the path he going down he says hes givin up but now he smokes weed please i'm going out of my mind should i marry this guy or ahould i leave now before i have more children and more debts with him.How do you get your man to stop taking speed?
Love does make you do dumb things....hardest part in all of this is taking you out of the equation. You already have one child with him, and the longer you stay its more likely you wont leave until that one day he does jeopardize your family with his drug use. It's inevitable, today weed, tomorrow needles, next week its cocaine....where does it stop? Your child didn't have a choice in who its parents should be. One thing is true, a child is a product of its environment. Think 10+ years from now...your baby is also using needles and smoking weed, what would you do?





You start a family with someone who makes you a better person and helps you to grow. I don't know the whole story, but write down a pro/con list...take yourself out of the picture and see if its worth leaving him. Good luckHow do you get your man to stop taking speed?
Leave him. That might do the trick...but if not, you've still benefited the situation. For yourself, anyway.





Guys like that DO NOT change until they want to. They are selfish, and often see the only problem is that YOU have a problem with their choices. They only care about themselves, or they would have gotten help for their addiction a long time ago.





You should not have had kids with this man. But it's too late to change that. You can only change your future now. Take your children and get out. That is no situation for a child.





Perhaps one day he really will clean up his act and you can get married and live a normal life. But don't sit around waiting for him to do that.





Good luck.
run...fast and far away...the opposite direction of him
Trust me. Cut your losses now and DO NOT MARRY HIM!!! He has issues that you will not be ready to handle. Have him seek counseling .
Basically comes down to how much you love and trust him and you need to sit and talk with him when he is not high and you need to see if he will get the help he needs. If he won't get help and stop then I seriously think you should leave him it doesn't look good for the child that you have.


Good luck!
If you leave while you still love him then there is a chance that he will realize what he is losing and straighten up, then you can work things out.





If you wait till you hate him, which you will eventually as his addiction and behavior worsen, then it's already over.





If you leave and he never gets his act together then not having your kids there to see it is a good thing.





I know crank and I am sorry for your situation,
who you meant to marry? and you have a baby. think about your family, and get out you want a drugged up baby? and you said he doesnt treat you good....LEAVE he sucks
Leave him now.





Neither your baby nor you needs his crap in your life.





He doesn't care enough about you to change his ways, then dump him. He won't live long.
Leave. And I am speaking from experience.
OMG!! Get out. You have a baby and he is smoking weed! Bad enough second hand cigarette smoke, much less weed. He is on a downward spiral and you are going with him if you don't get out and break all contact with him.





Why do you want to be treated like crap? Just because he hasn't hit you (yet) doesn't mean that he is not abusing you. He is emotionally abusing you if he treats you badly.





Please, for your sake and your baby's....leave now! Go to a friend's house or family member.
***are you serious? This guy is trash. Why are women so self destructive? Why would you question staying or leaving?***





I second that.....
get out of there. maybe it will be a wakeup call for him and if not you are better off moving on while he ruins his life
Postpone the wedding. Get your man in rehab. If he doesn't clean up his act then you need to leave.
are you serious? This guy is trash. Why are women so self destructive? Why would you question staying or leaving?
At the least i would try to delay the wedding until you know how you really feel. This situation is not safe for you, your fiance or your child at the moment.





I wish i could help you more but it is your decision in the end.





Try to find a book called Women who love too much by Robyn Norwood. It goes through the challeneges of living with someone addicted and can help you get through it.





Good luck. I hope it gets better for you
Of course it is always going to be hard to end a relationship with anyone you are close with. It is going to be heartbreaking, but what do you think will be more heartbreaking in the end? Do you want to worry about what he is doing for the rest of your life? Do you want to worry about where he is going? What he spent his money on, etc? That's no way to live. You may love him, but think about what your future would be like, let alone the future of your unborn children.