Relationship trouble?

i dont know why but im always pushing my boyfriend away. i keep being so occupied with being perfect for him that i dont know how much my narcissistic behaviour is affecting him.


i sound so manipulative and actually come across selfish.... but i dont know why..? i get scared about caring for people that i end up runing away from them - its quite odd. i dont want to hurt him because i have problems, but keep braking up with him just makes it worse instead of relieving him of me.


what should i do with this attitude i have?


last night he sounded really down i thought he'd do something stupid. so i have to stop this; but how?


pls leave me your opinionsRelationship trouble?
well ive heard exercising clears the mood of the problem you have ..





do some of tht and also do something you really enjoy before seeing him again





And I thought I had troubles lol =) sorry ....Relationship trouble?
Yes you are selfish and manipulative. You read your own mail and he read his. Don't assume and conclude on his behave. Constantly ask for break ups are irritating and discouraging. Instead of working things out together, break up seem to be an easy escape for you. Be more open to him about your feeling and ask him for suggestions to mend your odd behaviour.
seek counseling
Maybe, you need time to be on your own. Sometimes, letting a person go would make you realize that they mean so much more to you. If you're really worried and occupied with other things, maybe, you ought to talk to him and cool off since you can't be there as well when he needs you.
you should tell him what you told us right here, he'll respond. and together you two will work through it.
The best way to overcome a problem is to admit it not only to yourself but also to the person you care about that way he'll help you overcome your problem. I think he's down because he thinks that you really don't care about him the sadness you see is proof that he cares about you.I think what you are really doing is trying to be perfect so you will not get hurt its. Getting hurt is scary but its a part of life you grow through the hurt you learn more about yourself and what you really want. You need to start accepting the fact that at one point in your life you will be hurt theirs no one on earth who has never been hurt.Don't let this fear get the best of you because you'll miss out on a lot in life and don't stress yourself out on being perfect because no one is and will never be perfect just be yourself love is about accepting eachother the way we are with our good points and bad ones.Open up to him talk it over and relax you really don't want to lose a good relationship from being scarred.