Just need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?

i am 15 and found out i am pregnant i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year he is 16 turning 17 in april next year.


he isnt your normal guy he always puts me before anything we both love each other and he wants to be here to help me and is coming with me to the doctors to my next appointments we dont want this baby to make our relationship hard so we both arnt going to let it brake us up


he says he loves me and eventually wants to marry me but all i read is negative stories about how teen mums are bad ones they will be single the dad with leave them blah blah but i need to postivie advice to help me


i dont want to get an abortion i have support from all my family and friends but i get scared i dont want to loose my boyfriend cause most the storys i read make me think negative please help me :(


xJust need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
Get the abortion, he won't stick around for the long haul and you don't want to be stuck alone with a baby. But that's just my opinion.





If you go to a Planned Parenthood clinic that has a low-income program it can be as cheap as 100$. If you tells them you have no job, no money and no support they will likely have you pay the minimum for the procedure and get donations to cover the rest. 1-800-230-PLAN (1-800-230-7526) to find the Planned Parenthood clinic nearest you. If you are underage it will mostly likely be free.





You have the choice between the pill (which can be taken up to 11weeks, at home or at a friends house) or the vacuum method (in clinic procedure). Personally I used the pill method so I could be at home with my husband but some women want to have the surgical, so it's done and over with when they leave the clinic.





You will be financially screened - usually this goes on the honor system, weight/height taken, blood pressure checked, pricked -fingertip- to check for rH factor and anemia, you will receive an ultrasound or sonogram to determine gestational age. You may be asked if you want to view the image, this is up to you. You will receive antibiotics, anti-nausea tabs and pain meds. Take them ALL. You must finish at the very least your course of antibiotics. Follow all aftercare instructions and go back to your after care appt. This last step is vital, you must go back for your aftercare appt! Abortion begins a new menstrual cycle. You should have a regular period in 4 to 8 weeks.you should have the option of receiving birth control - again this will most likely be free, take it and use it correctly.





If you are underage you may want to check this site out to see about parental consent laws and whatnot. http://www.sexetc.org/state *Even if it says you need parental consent, you don't. Call PP and tell them you cannot tell your parents; by law, a judicial bypass must be available to those minors who just cannot get their parents/guardians permission. A judge signs the parental consent acting as a de facto guardian.





Some state medicaid program do pay for it, use this link and figure out if your state covers it. If they do, you can go to ';welfare'; office and get emergency coverage and the state and taxes will help pay for it. http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/c鈥?/a>





I respect that it is your choice and understand that you are probably doing what's best for you. If you have any more questions or want/need to talk about it drop me an email.





It is entirely possible to have an abortion and not feel guilt because you knew it was the right thing to do.


ImNotSorry.net





~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion %26lt;no regrets%26gt; and I have a 9 month old daughter %26lt;no regrets%26gt;. I believe in protecting my daughter's choice.





Abortion: There is a Consensus


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsSQiazUv鈥?/a>Just need some advice because all i find is negative adivce?
The guys who leave their pregnant girlfriends are jerks. So far, your boyfriend sounds like one of the good ones. You have a lot a head of you so take it one step at a time. Share this blessed event with your boyfriend and just hope that he'll be there for you. Nothing you can do about it if he decides to leave. And you can break the mold by being a good Mum and finishing your schooling so you can support your child with or without a Dad.
No matter what things are going to be hard. Just take it day by day. You never know, your boyfriend might be all he is made out to be. He really might be there no matter what. Dont worry too much on him but focus on raising the baby together no matter what. Good luck!
Only you know your boyfriend. We can't tell you what he may or may not do in the future honey.
are you ready to be a mum at 15?
Getting married when you're a teenager does increase the chance of divorce, but that doesn't mean you can't make it. It will be hard, raising a child is hard. You two will go through ups and downs so remember that it is okay to have some problems. Don't give up when it is getting stressful because you can get through it. Remember forgiveness too, he will probably get on your bad side when he is under too much pressure and you will probably do the same. It might take a long time until your relationship seems the same again because the baby will be the center of attention. When she is sleeping through the night at about 6 to 10 weeks you will get a chance to spend some time with each other. Also remember that the hormones are having a big effect on you. Mood swings and irrationality are a part of this. It is hard to control yourself, I am in my second pregnancy. Let yourself settle down when you get too upset or stressed out and try to think rationally. Honestly, I get mad at my husband for nothing, but it never seems like nothing until I calm down and reconsider. Well, these are things you may experience, I hope I was helpful. Oh, and it is not all bad! I am just giving you example of the hard times you might experience, so I hope you two make it.





Good luck.
well you seem to be getting lots of positive advice on here :)


just thought id share my story with you hun...





i fell pregnant at 14... yes 14.. i was on the pill... unfornutatly it didnt work.


i turned 15 about 4 months after i fell pregnant... and now im 17 with a beautiful 19 month old little girl :) and i couldnt imangine my life without her... i faced alot of crap when i found out i was pregnant.. everything changed.. but im still with my boyfriend who is a fantastic dad.


he works hard to support his family and im so grateful that he is with us.





not all teen mums are bad ones... yes there are plently of them tho.


it just depends on the choices that you make as a parent..


i had all my family tell me i was going to be a horrible parent and that i should abort my baby and i was called everything under the sun even tho ive only slept with my current boyfriend :S


but now.. my parents absoutly love their granddaughter and we just couldnt be happier.. yes it gets tough.. yes there are some hard decisions ahead.. but if you are positive and you believe that you are going to make the right choices and give your child the best possible future then go for it :) all the best darl xxx
No one can predict the future. You could be in your twenties or thirties and be pregnant and it can turn out negative. You are both happy together and want to give it the best you can so give it a go. Its wonderful to hear you have a boyfriend you have been with in a long term relationship and that he treats you well. He is supportive of you and thats a wonderful trait in a partner. Im sure he will continue to be a supportive and loving partner and father. I think the most difficult thing in young relationships is external interference. Keep the communication between the both of you open and honest and know that there will be hard times as well and wonderful times. You will be fine. I wish you the very best for the future.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. You're right, this is going to be the most difficult, exciting, tiring and stressful experience of your life. It will test your relationship and that means you both need to seek some solid support from family, friends and others.





I would suggest that you try to find a teenage pregnancy support group, through a local church, maternity hospital or government agency, so that both of you can meet other parents of a similar age. Sharing your experiences, getting advice and learning from each other may help you through this time.
Having a child at your age is definitely a major life adjustement. But you seem to have everything going for you. Your family and your boyfriend support you. So you have a chance at making it work. You have to be aware that there will be huge difficulties, but it's not impossible. If your boyfriend said he'd stay and marry you someday and that he goes to all the appointments with you, well you know he's a caring guy who will help you out with the kid. I wouldn't say he's definitely gonna marry you (I doubt anyone knows that for sure at 17), but it looks like whether or not you are together, he will help out with the baby and that's the main thing you want.


You need to try and make the most of your life in spite of being a teenage mother. Keeping up with your studies will be difficult but having your friends and family's support is essential here. Too many teenage mother drop out of school which makes their lives so much harder andd generally helps trapping them into long-term poverty. So make sure you do everything you can not to drop out.


Other than that, becoming a new mother should always be the greatest joy of your life, no matter the circumstances. So enjoy it and love your child.
i am 18 and my bf is 22 and we haven't even been together for not even a year and we were only together 6 months and i feel pregnant and we have had some hard times with me constantly having mood swings but we have survived the 13 of october we will have been together a year. We are expecting our little boy in january and my bf is over the moon just be upfront with each other and stick together no matter what and include him in the pregnancy as much as you can you can do it and because of your age u will get a lot of negativity but be strong and enjoy ur pregnancy there are lots of women out there that will never have the joy of child birth and pregnancy so be happy and do whats right by yourself and your baby good luck