Do YOU find this a FAIR question to ASK her?

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Basically, I met this girl, she liked me and I liked her, we'd hangout as friends. I found out she had a boyfriend, so I hit the brakes on us and stayed friends. They brake up and a month or so later we start to pick up where we left off before I found out about her boyfriend. Exams come, we didn't talk for 3 weeks or so, and when exams were done she sends me a letter telling me that her and her boyfriend have gotten back together, that she is really sorry and doesn't ';deserve'; a guy like me.





This really upset me because I had opened up to this girl which is really hard, so we stopped talking for a long time. Where does that leave us, her boyfriend cheats on her during the month of November, they brake up and starting late December we start to talk again, one thing leads to another and here we are setting a ';date';.





Now I want to ask her this: ';The first time around you claimed to have liked me and I opened up to you, but it really upset me when we opened up to each other that you would just double cross me and get back to with your boyfriend. Now I want to know, is this just going to be the same as last time? Do you really like me or were you using me me then and now?';





Is that a fair question to ask? How would you ask it? Anything need to change about it?Do YOU find this a FAIR question to ASK her?
sounds fair enough to me, her old boyfriend sounds like a real jerk.Do YOU find this a FAIR question to ASK her?
That is a very fair question to ask. But when you ask her, make sure you confront the problem, not the person. You are always commanded to forgive a person right away, but you dont have to immediately trust them again. Make her earn your trust.
All is fair in love, but I don't think she was using you. I think she truly likes you, but having been with the guy, she probably is still in love with him; therefore, she is always going to have feelings for him. Just tell her your concerns, but don't insinuate that she is using you.
well you know i wouldn't even talk to her. she want you to make her x boyfriend jealous.so he would come back to her. it work. she use you like a paper Towel. and then threw you away.why would you even want to be her friend. friends don't do to friends. shes not your friend.that what i think. well bye
I don't think it's unfair to ask her that, but I would reward it, because right now it sounds a bit too accusing. Take out ';double cross'; and ';were you using me then and now.';





Be short and concise.





Try:





';I really like you, and the last time this came up you ended up going back to your ex, which was fine. I respect that decision, but right now I just want to know, are things going to be the same as last time? I like you, but I don't want to be used.';





You can reword it, but that's my suggestion.
She is making you her ';back-burner boy!'; Run and don't look back! No one wants to be a rebound date!
dude this exact thing happened to me, up to the point where we were going to go on a date a second time.





Of course its a fair question to ask. she probably said at the time all that **** like ';i dont deserve u'; ';i really liked you'; ';i didnt want to hurt you'; ';i felt so bad for ages';





i would say it like it is tbh. She can get offended but its a legit question.





good luck man
i would ask it
yeah ask away