How do you get over your boyfriend when he's all you have?

Okay well heres my story. I am 23 years old. Last year me and my boyfriend of five years broke up. I was a homemaker. I had no friends and I didnt work for one year. Okay so i had move in with my mom. One month later i meet 36 year old man. I really feel for him. He was working and everything was fine for two months. At that time i was working at yogurt shop. Well i didnt mind his age or that even had 3 kids. Month later i find out he does crystal meth. He clamined he didnt do it often and i let it go. Well he got laid off and he just started disappering getting high i guess. Well we had brake for about 2 months cuz he was ignoring me pretty much. Well thing's turned around when i told how i felt . And even though he wasnt working he was being a great attentive boyfriend. I knew he was still using but i really didnt notice i guess he wasnt using very much. I got a job as a security officer and that made me happy. Well he has just gotten worse and worser. He's abusive, sleeps for days, still hasnt tired to get a job after 7months, ingnores for days. I took him to church sunday to help me him and he adanded me there. So i know i have to let him go right now. Well the thing is he's all i have. I have not been working for 2months because my company has not found a post for me. I only have one friend who i barley see cause she married and goes to school 13hrs a day. Me and my ex are still friends and we talk and i have my mother. But i really dont have anyone to hang out with. And they oh get over your boyfriend hang out with friends well i dont have any. And im not working so i just stay home all day and clean or go look for a job. I recently found a church that i hope will help. So what do i do. I am so lonely and that's why i stay with him. But I know i cant anymore. And they say well find anther guy well i dont be in this same painful situation anymore. Anybody go through this? What do i need to do to get over this?How do you get over your boyfriend when he's all you have?
as william dresser said ';stop it'; just get over him its guna suck but you dont want to be with that drug using , abusive, piece of ****. if he loved you and cared for you he would show it and he doesnt. so it will hurt you will feel lonesome but over time you will get over him and dont associate yourself with him anymore dont even bothering talking to him.





Also trying walking to each businees around where you live. and apply everywhere , even if you have no experience so say to them your eager to learn and are a quick learner . sell yourself to eveyboss.


make yourself look 110% to them. so if you get a job you can work and have money and you can meet new people.





What about going out. like go to the park, or the bar, or somewhere that causes you to be around people that you can socialize with.


let your voice be put out there, talk to people be kind and introduce yourself. and over time meet people and you can get more things to do on a friday night


are jayHow do you get over your boyfriend when he's all you have?
Get a truly good friend for you. Unfortunately you can not find one easily. Hang out, meet people, see the world. Trust me there is a hell lot of things to do in the world then just stucking in the relationships.
came to answer ur ques ...fell asleep between that story..im sorry.
Make yourself busy OR find a pet. :)
yeo! what u needa do is drop this dude... OTB(off the break). yeah u dnt have ne1 right now cause u dedicate ur time to him and he ignores u.. u really dont need people to be able to occupy urself.. and also getting new friends is something that will happen.. what i wuld say.. cause ive had aperiod of time where i ahd no job and i was just down.. i started goen to the gym.. its the best thing u can do. it relieves stress, u feel better about yourself, and u ahve more energy. Continue looking for a job and just make sur eu dont rely on someone else for you to live your life... do ur own thing and when u find someone that wants to be with u while u do ur thing then thats the person u would wanna be with.. but honestly with the sound of the relationship with this dude i would cut ties instantly its not gonna go newhere. and time is what u need to gewt over it and will power.. just be strong and remeber no matter what ur still gna live your life..
church isn't a solution, try rehab


as for you, i say find a part time job.. that's a good place to meet new people, then with that money you can go out.. and meet more new people and before you know it, you'll know lots of new people who will then be your friends
leave your ex bf completely, if you get too emotionally attached to him then eventually you'll get back together and everything will go wrong. while you look for a job get a lower level one, like work in a restaurant or what about that yogurt place? It'll give you something to do and you'll be able to meet new people and make new friends. You could also try taking a class, like a art or dancing class or whatever your into, just get out and meet new friends, ones that aren't addicted to crystal meth. but don't get involved with your ex bf, you don't want to end up somehow commited to him do you?
Don't date a usser! It's a horrible idea for your happiness. I've been where you are -- lonely and totally dependent on the wrong person for friendship, companionship, and familial love. The best thing you can do for yourself is find a job, become economically independent of him and then meet some new people.





Friends are so much more important than lovers! Join a gym or activity group. Best luck.
so you're telling me he is the only guy you can get? Get away from this guy girl. When girls say that they have feelings for a guy that abuses them and does hard drugs it's not feelings of love, it's being scared of being alone and getting no attention from someone, in my opinion, you need to start worrying about your life instead of your lust for ego. And dont think just because you have nothing that that gives you an exuse to stop living like a girl should, only you have the power to change where you are in life, and who you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with people who care about themselves and have goals, you will never feel like you have nothing because those people are reliable freinds, people who do drugs aren't, it is as simple as that. But like i said, only you can change the direction your life is going in.
You are not alone, i know someone who is in a similar situation as you, but please dont stay with him because you have no one else to rely on, you are a very good person for trying to help him and I know you hear this alot but leaving him is the best thing, you will overcome this, you are strong and when you do u will see that getting a job at any place even if its at a supermarket wont matter cuz u will meet friends there. Im not saying forget about him but u must go on and better yourself, If u need someone to talk to u can talk to me, and remember dont get stuck with him cuz he is all you have cuz u will regret it later, right now is ur chance to live, ur only 23 (like me) i wish u da best...u deserve better..God Bless
You keep writing asking the same questions! What is the answer that you are looking for? I cannot tell you to stay with that druggie because he is toxic.


You need to build up your confidence and push yourself to go places and meet people. What is stopping you from going back to school part-time? Learn computers, do a self-assertive class, do anything. Once you get started you will be surprised how quick things will change around you.


Please don't say that you have nothing! You have your best friend in your mother, something that I will kill to have.


Unless you pick yourself up and start respecting yourself you will continue to attract the same drug freaks. You can do better than that, all you need to do is believe in yourself.
I did go through something like this...but she didn't do any drugs..but she had many problems..that were real serious...and aftter 2 years and a half we broke up..I was devastaded..I tried to work things out with her but didn't work she said she needed to find her self that she was confused?if she lloved me or not..it made no scense to me!...I did not know were to go or who to go to because I had left evrything for her!...my friends..my parents...and the most important thing God!...It was real hard to let go of her it was very very hard!! And stilll is today...but I could tell you that God is the only way!..just pray and let him know what you are fealing...and go to church sing! Take it all out on him! He listens to you! He has always been there for you! Don't let him go! Let him know you want him to guid your life!....I promisse its going to be hard to make this decision but I could tell you that its the best one I've ever made!..I hope this short episode of my life helps you..make the right decision..


God bless!