Should I call a brake with my boyfriend that has a child with another women?

Me and my boyfriend have 1 child from diffrent people. We are both 23 and my son is 4 his 1. We been dating for a while, the problem was in the begaining of our relationship he was still talking to his baby mama as ';friends';. I don't talk to my babys father as anything but only strickly about my son. We been together for 3mths.








We both had recent break up's with our exs (child's parent) before we got together. I know for sure I gotten over my babys father, Have over a year. We were only together for our son which was really stupid, I wasn't in love with him and I felt like I was raising 2 kids (he was unemployed for 2 yrs).





He was with his babys mama for the child and sex of course, they were only f***ked buddys and she ended up pregnant, they also stayed together for the child.





Getting to the point yesterday I was using his phone to text a friend and came across some text's from her, it basically said that she was with some other person for sex when they were only f***cked buddys and that he was taking it to far with me, he was getting serious and that he had to choose his child and her or me. Of course he said me. I had asked him if we wern't together would you give her a chance, he said yes. I felt like crap and told him that I wouldn't do that if it was me, I wouldn't give my baby's father a chance because I don't love him and know for sure im over him and have been, like I said its really stupid to be with someone for the child (Its just showing a child how fake you can make a relationship be, no real love). Well it really made me realize about calling it off well taking a brake atleast for a month, just so he can realize what he wants.


Do you think that would be the best thing to do?


Do you think giving him a month is enough time to make him realize what he wants?


Is there a chance after he is with me that he still might end up going back to her?





Please help me by giving me your opinion on what to... I really fell for this guy really bad and am really scared to get hurt in the long run.





Thank you.Should I call a brake with my boyfriend that has a child with another women?
It sounds like he's confused at best, lying to himself at worst. I'd let him go. He's probably going to keep talking to her, and she's obviously trying to move in on him. If you've only invested a few months, let it go and find someone stable who loves you and wouldn't consider leaving you. Let him raise his kid and be with the kid's mother, because otherwise you'll just tie yourself and your kid up in this mess and probably have to watch him walk out the door down the line, anyway. I could be wrong, so be careful. Did he really say that he would consider being with her? What else did he say? I would have to hear both sides, because you might be hearing only certain parts right now.