Ugh, help me. Boyfriend break up promblem. ) :?

How do you get over breaking up with your boyfriend? I've tried everything. Listening to music to get my mind off of him, eating, doing something, tv, computer. Nothing is working. %26amp; he has been so rude to me telling me that i wasnt worth it, i was ugly, %26amp; tall (5'7), %26amp; a huge monster. %26amp; so yestarday i really got on his nerves %26amp; he had sex with he new gf. They just started to date yestarday %26amp; they already had sex. She's a hoe. %26amp; he's a player. %26amp; its really bothering me. Btw, he's only 14, %26amp; so is she. I hope she gets pregnant %26amp; they both get aids. But how do i get over him? I really loved him. We stayed up all night texting. He said the sweetest things to me ever. %26amp; that he loved me. I gave him 3 chances %26amp; he screwed them all up. He promised me he wouldnt brake the last one %26amp; he did. Please help me.Ugh, help me. Boyfriend break up promblem. ) :?
Hes a piece of s h i t obviously. And i will tell you a little secret: When girls break up with us, its HUGE blow to our ego. Because we want to be the ones to have control over the relationship, we want to make the big calls. And also it just makes us look bad, friends make fun of us, and its just not a good rep. So him calling you names is just a way to make him feel like like he has control, he knows it gets to you so it makes him feel better about himself, like he is calling the shots now. And its also probably a way for him to make it seem like he was not effected by the breakup, like he could care less that you broke up with him and your relationship has ended, though he actually does. He just wants to call you names to basically make him feel better about himself, and to act like the tough guy in front of his friends. Its up to you to let yourself get over him. Obviously you deserve a lot better than this tool, and you guys are what only 14? You have so much guys ahead of you, you are bound to find a guy who is ten times better than him, just give it time. And another thing, i doubt its love. You might have really really liked him, but given your age and probably lack of relationships, you have nothing else to compare it to. I have been with my girlfriend for two years now and i can't even say I'm in love with her. I love her and care for her, but thats way different. But yeah, you probably don't like hearing that so i will stop. But just tell yourself there will be better guys, and don't let this tool get to you, because thats what he wants, to get to you. This other girl is just a backup, he doesn't really have feelings for her, he doesn't even respect her considering he had sex with her so fast. He respects you more, and he is only doing it to MAKE you feel jealous. Don't give him the thrill, act like you don't even care. Because you shouldn't care.Ugh, help me. Boyfriend break up promblem. ) :?
well just try to go out with your friends anything that could get him off your mind... just don't get another boyfriend just stay single and enjoy your young life because we only get to be young once... i been in your situation but with me is my ex girlfriend dumped me for another guy... so what i do is play video games , hang out with my friends and play guitar... so just hang in there and you would get over him in time..
The fact that he was cruel, should have shown you his true colors. How could you like someone capable of kicking a dog while he's down. Pretend this happened to someone you loved how would you react? you would be disgusted with such a guy. You have to believe the same way you got along with him, and liked him so much you'll find that again and it will feel even better. Best advice get a life then get a man, because once he walks out you need to love something else.
he sounds like a prick without being rude.....


hes so not worth it and maybe make him jeleous. i know yr not over him,... u must of loved him very much :/


i found that by hanging with my friend and doing more work i got over him.


on the brightside at least yr not the one who would be getting the aids :P





im sure u can findsomeone who will actually appreicate u :)
......wow...um well honey he is STUPID. If he's only 14 and having sex, chances are he's gonna have a kid by the time hes like what? 17 or 18. Dont try to go back to him or anything cause then he will just think ';she will take me back no matter what I do'; and you need to just calm down talk to your friends about anything other than him. Do nothing to even talk or think about him cause he is STUPID. good luck
You need to give your head a shake. This guy sounds like he is trouble and he has no respect for you. You did a smart thing by breaking up with him. Dont look back just look forward.


Focus on school not boys get good grades and go to college. You will find a nice guy but first get schooling finished and become successful. Best of luck. He is not worth being upset over.
you are YOUNG and he is not worth it!





as hard as it is just push him out of your mind. any way possible.


it seems like it wont get better but i promise you it will, and sooner than you think.





dont worry about stupid boys and relationships, you have your whole life for that. you only get a very short time to enjoy being young.
Awe...well hun im goin thro the same thing..its just how high school is...full of drama...there will be heart ache with just this kid personally 4 a while...its been about over a month since him n i still miss him but broke up with him 4 the right reasons..theres nothing u can honestly do to make him see wat he has lost and how he is hurting u...try and telll him...say friendship is good...so we can still be close. maybee good luck girl
well they are 14. and how old are you?





I'd say ignore them, his not worth it, you deserve better, don't let him get to you. try and cut all contact with him and his girlfriend because his clearly trying to make you jealous. Move on, Socialize and meet new people. breaks up are never easy but its up to you...
there is nothing you can do to get over someone you just need time but a good way to help would be not to listen to him when he says shtuff like that about you dont even talk to him if hes gonna be a jack @$$ about it
well first of all he is a crappy bf and you need a new gf because she is a *****. Get a new bf, and hang out with friends more. oh and one more this ewwww they are 14 what sluts they should get a life. sorry if i didn't help hang in there
This sounds overly dramatic for 14-year-olds. Instead of trying to be grown, be happy that you are 14. I'm in college and do you know how much I would love to return to junior high? Life was far easier back then.
Write down all the things that you did not like about him and the ones that you did. they have to be legitamite. then for every bad characteristic cancel out a good one. see how terrible he is?
honestly the only thing that makes a girl get over a guy is a new guy, to tell you the truth. that is the ONLY thing that worked for me
You should feel lucky your not that Ho....look you've already found 2 people your better than..girl your 14 you shouldn't be loving anyone!
Make a list of everything you guys did when you were together and for each item ask yourself, ';Is this love?';
You'll eventually get over it... Just find a hobby.
find another boyfriend
Lol, you love someone that tells you you're ugly and calls you monster?
ur so young if u start settling 4 pig's at ur age by time ur 22 ur going to have a farm full of pig's and jack ***'s
there really isnt any set thing u can do, the best thing is to jus go out and find someone new or simply occupy ur time wt other things or other people love is flawed like that it's never forever
I know how you feel, try to go out with your friends and meet another guy. You deserve better!


Hope this helps!
it sounds ideal, nice to hear about 14yo who aren't afraid to enjoy sex
get over it ur 14 year olds
move on, your young trust me you'll get over it...
well I'm 14 too so I know what you mean. It's like us ';good, nice girls'; get punished for not being sluts. All the guys we think are nice and sweet end up going for whores because sex is all stupid teenage boys think about. But trust me, if his new gf is a ho then shell most likely cheat on him soon. So don't worry. Think about how dumb and bad he'll feel when that happens. That's not old enough to be doing that anyway. As for getting over it, you just can't let him get to you. The sooner you realize he's not worth sulking over, youll feel SO much better. Ignore him when he says you were ugly and all. I'm 100% sure he's just trying to make you upset. When you see him act like your having so much gun with friends and loving life (even if you aren't) I bet you he will try to get you back in a while. Stupid boys right. Just turn your sadness into anger (not in front of him though) avoid being sad. Remember it's ok to think about him but don't think it's your fault. And it's childish I know but it's kinds fun to make him jealous ;) so I would flirt with lots of guys right in front of him. Haha. It takes time but itll be ok I promise. Stay strong!
Girl I feel you. I am 17 and went through nothing like this but I had a bad break up with a guy I was not in love with, but he was the guy I have ever had the most feelings for. I wish could tell you there is some easy fix there is not. It sounds like you two are trying to be friends don't Trust me don't it gets messy and I know you want him in your life even just as friends but you dint. hes a dick like straight up and I know you deserve better because no one deserves this. you need to forgive him in the sence of you figuratively let go of his neck and hers your allowed to be hurt and upset you just need to come to terms that its over lick your wounds and stop blaming other outside things your young hes stupid and your going to get a new guy eventually and you ll laugh about the fact you ever felt this way about Him but its un healthy to sit there and be angry and dwell on it so just stop and everything else will fall into place if you distance yourself. good luck i hope you feel better soon!
First stop thinking about that negative energy about that other girl, its not gonna do you any good. You just sound like an ugly monster for saying those awful things about someone. Second eating, watching tv, going on the computer, and such isnt going to help u get over him; its only going to get your mind off things for a short time. And third its a work in progress, it takes time and positive energy to get over someone. Wishing he would come to his senses and everything is just going to make it worse, so even though it's hard you have to move on and not think about him so much. You may even discover your own powerful ways of coping with it.
You say you loved him, but from the way you describe him, what is there to love? Do you really love someone who talks badly to you? Do you love people who degrade and belittle you like that?





Really, though, there is not '; one thing'; you can do to get over him. This is why adults say don't get involved so young, broken hearts ruin so much of your time, and is that how you want to spend your teenage yrs?? Mending broken heart after broken heart?


It takes TIME ! All you can do is make sure to fill your time with friends and doing things, focus on your schoolwork, and talk alot to your friends and family. Also, don't talk about HIM!! If you're talking about him, then that means you're not trying to take your mind off of him, because you can't NOT think about someone while THINKING about that someone!!





It just takes time, And remind yourself that he's a creep if he can turn around and be with someone else so quickly. And us girls deserve BETTER than being hung up on a creep. REMEMBER that!! We don't need creeps, they hurt us. And we don't like ppl that hurt us. We dont'want to be around ppl that cause pain. We deserve ppl that know how smart we are, that tell us how smart and clever we are. And you deserve that too. Don't sell yourself short for just any ol' body.