Huge mistake by giving to much information to my bfs parents, opinions/advice?

I live my my bf and his parents for the past 4 months. Its my boyfriends house morgage, but they needed to move in temporarily because they lost thier home. So they pry into business, if im upset or my bf is gone, they stop me and ask whats wrong and give me advice. Which was strange but turned out they all talk about everything and everyones business. but this time around, i confided in my bf's mom because she is always telling me if i feel im disrespected i need to stand up for myself, so i felt that way and told her about my bf and how he is flirting with other girls online, (which i found out by braking into my bf's myspace because i felt he was betraying me, which he WAS) giving out his number, acting like he is single. She was furious. BUT she ended up telling my bf's dad whom is a GUY and didnt understand. and said i over reacted and thinks im that ';crazy girffriend'; who gets into personal business that doesnt belong to me. That im a overbearing, jelous type. But my bf confirmed that what he did was wrong, and he was hiding it from me, and that he is insecure. BUT now i feel i can never show my face at thier home again because of his dad's opinion about me and braking his son's privacy/trust issues. C'mon, if i found dirt...then the dirt is the bigger problem, not the fact of how i obtained it, right? Now i know better and know what im getting myself into before its too late. Obviously how can I trust my BF now that he does this stuff? how he flirts and teases all kinds of girls and texts them ';cutie'; and winks, and stuff. I mean if your boyfriend is sending winks to other girls and calling them hot, i think there is probably a problem, am i right? Maybe we will brake up, maybe not, but still i feel i didnt do anything wrong enough to be considered that ';crazy'; girlfriend.Huge mistake by giving to much information to my bfs parents, opinions/advice?
I would probably do the same. In fact I have done a few of those things before....my boyfriend knows that I snoop - not that I don't trust him but that I am insecure and he knows that. We have talked about it and since he no longer gets mad at me the snooping has become less and less and practically stopped all together





However if in my snooping I did find something - I would confront him as well .... it doesn't mean that we are crazy - its just that we are crazy about them. I am kinda in the same situation... I practically live with my boyfriend and his family and they know when we get into fights and his mom pulls each of us side and talks to us... and it is very awkward I have learned to not tell her the complete truth because most of the time it is little things that can be dealt with easily. Plus it is his and my relationship not him me and his mom.... thats not how it works.





I think that you did maybe go a little over board... but that would be if you found nothing... seeing as how you did find something i think his texting other girls completely OVER shadows what you did.





His dad will almost always take his side .... that just the way it will be. That doesn;'t mean you can't show your face.. you just need to talk about this with you boyfriend about the texting - forget about his dad.. This is something you two need to work out. I would flip out and freak out and feel very betrayed I see where your coming from. My heart will be broken. Once you two work things out then just go about your daily lives as you use too...and his dad will soon get over it. And if you want to really get on his good side once a week make a food dish that he really loves... but don;t tell him that you made it for him. Just do it say that its an old family recipe and you made it for every one. The best way to get on a mans good side is through his stomach... I think this will bee the best way to work things out with him. And possibly when the time is right and you and the dad are starting to work things out - you can talk to him and tell him that the snooping is not something you do all the time and how heart broken you were to find out he had been trying to get with other woman. Tell him how much you care for his son and he will soon realize that your a good woman..





Good luck hun!Huge mistake by giving to much information to my bfs parents, opinions/advice?
At least you didn't tell them about that time a pimp spit in your mouth.
Oh dear.


I have before gotten jealous myself and snooped in to my boyfriends messages and stuff and I think EVERY girl does it if they feel somethings going on and there is NOTHING crazy about it at all.


So don't worry on that front.


just explain... Yeah i thought you were up to something, i was to scared to ask in case I was wrong and didn't want you to think i was thinking bad of you.


However, even though snooping is bad, he was more wrong about saying stuff like that and flirting.


So explain that yeah you snooped but you had your suspicions and they were right and what your bf did was even worse.


Ask your boyfriend to stop flirting cause i'm sure he feels bad about it now and all guys flirt a little.