It sounds like he is a little jealous. Which is a good thing really. It means he is protective of you, and wants to be with you.
I used to have this problem a little, that I would think my partner was looking at other girls when we were out, or jealousy when he was talking to girls he used to go to school with.... (Mainly because I was selfconscious).
When my boy could see I got a little like that my partner would do something like hold my hand, give a peck on the cheek or say something which directly focused his attention on me, and made it clear that we are close and together.
It made me feel loved and got the silly notions and worry out of my head pretty quickly. Maybe these little reassuring gestures towards your boy would do the same thing.I love my boyfriend with all my heart i would never cheat on him ...from the first day we've met i stopped ?
You don't have the problem in your relationship. Your boyfriend probably has trust, control, and self-esteem issues. While all of these issues can be overcome, it takes a lot of work. Some guys grow out of them, some guys get worse. If you are truly committed, then those are the issues you need to talk about and face. However, despite these being the issues, he should not deny you friendship because it is an integral part of social development. If he refuses to see your point, and to work on these issues, move on, b/c chances are he probably really doesn't care.
Talk to your boyfriend about it. Explain to him that he the only one for you and that you can't control other peoples actions. Let him know that you do nothing to lead any one else on and you make it clear you are with him. He needs to respect you and understand that you care about him, if he keeps getting upset maybe HE is guilty for something and is taking it out on you.
I know one thing from experience.That is a sign that he is going to get violent with you! Trust me. The way he is now is a form of abuse. He has you not talking to your friends and nots so not cool. And if a guy or a girl say hi to you so should be able to response. You deserve to be treated better than that. I know you love him. But you tell him, that you are not going to put up with it. He wants you to be like a scared little puppy. All abusers are like that. They start out so sweet then they get over protected and say they don't want other guys looking or talking to you. Because they are afraid you will leave. Then at times when they are mad they will threaten to leave when you are at your weakest moments. But then it will turn for the worst and they will start hitting. And you probably know where it goes form there. hag in there.
It's obvious he is extremely jealous. This never turns out well especially if he has no reason to be so. He should worry more about you and your feelings than his own insecurities. A jealous and insecure person is more often than not a selfish person and when talking about a relationship there is no room for one to be selfish.
“A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity.”
-Robert A. Heinlein-
You can tell him to stop being so jealous, paranoid, and ignorant. You might also want to explain to him the meaning of trust and how it's the bases for all relationships. Don't go at him strong, if you do, but sit down and talk with him about it and try to make him understand.
when your in public stare at the ground unless there is a guy laying on the sidewalk then you will be looking at him...tell your boyfriend that the only people who get paranoid about cheating are the ones who have cheated and now feel guilty or the ones who are so insecure that they think everyone is out to get them.
Wow if your bf is that jealous and possessive, you are on your way to a whirlwind of trouble with him. You cant stop talking to your friends just because of HIM. If I were you I would break up with HIM. There are other guys out there who would be happy to see you have lots of friends..don't let him control you.
it looks like he is jeluos for sure
anyway talking to him would be really good somthing like:
';you know that i love u so much and i will never cheat';
anyway don't make it sounds like you wanna break up also a french kiss wont do you no harm, and i can give you an extra advice don't wear hot clothes else in dates, you know he might get jelous about it and do something you won't like
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This type of behavior is one of the signs of an abuser. Why did you stop talking to your friends? Did he not approve of them? Do they not approve of him? It sure sounds like you should be very careful in this relationship, if you continue it at all.
This is not healthy behaviour. I worry it may escalate. You would do well to break up with him and move on. Do yourself a favour and find a guy who is capable of trusting, respecting and loving you. This guy is not it...
You stopped talking to *your* friends, and he gets mad when you say hi to a guy? Get out now. He is way too controlling and believe me it will only get worse.
u can never live happily with such a person believe me. u will have to compromise a lot with yourself i tell you. tell him to be broadminded ot just break off
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